I have a wonderful DD. She is usually so responsible and have never had any trouble with her. She is turning 10 years old at the end of this month. We give her chores to do and she has never really complained until a couple weeks ago. It has gotten to the point of demanding her to do them instead of asking or just reminding her.
I finally sat her down tonight and asked her why she all of a sudden decided she wasn't going to do her chores. She told me that her friends and her were talking and they all get paid to do chores and she doesn't.
I guess my feelings on this are mixed and I wanted to see what everyone else does. We don't pay her to do chores but if she needs money for the pool, or if she sees a little something at dollar general etc. we either get it for her or I will give her a few dollars for snacks at the pool. No questions asked. We also let her sell the veggies from the garden and the jam we make etc. Half that money goes into her savings account and the other half she saves for when she wants something big. Right now she is saving (and almost there) for a Nintendo DS. Little does she know we bought her one for her birthday at the end of this month.
Her chores are not big tasks. She has to unload the dishwasher, make her bed, pick up her things, on big cleaning day once a week she has to dust and vaccum, carry her dirty laundry downstairs, and she mows the upper 1 1/2 acres of flat land once a week. That is it.
My 4 year old DS also has chores. He has to make his bed, carry his dirty laundry downstairs, tie up the garbage bag and put a new one in the garbage can, and on big cleaning day he has to stock our three bathrooms with toilet paper, soap etc. I really don't think these few chores each of them have to do is too much.
I don't require them to help me with the outside chores at all. Most of the time my DS will be out there helping me but I don't want them down there by themselves and when school starts in the fall my DD always has a ton of homework. We don't pay for good grades either. We usually reward her with a movie rental of her choice or we go out to eat at a resturant of her choice or she can have a friend spend the night, etc. I think good grades are for her own pride of doing a job well done and if she is trying her hardest and gets a B then that is all we can ask.
I never even thought of paying them for doing something I think just makes them responsible. I am wondering if I should just give them an allowance each week if they do all their chores and when it comes time to them wanting some money then they have to take it out of their allowance. But how much allowance should I give them? Or should I just keep it how it is and explain to her why I do it the way we have been. Or should I pay her for each of her chores and how much do I give her for each chore? (but what if she just decides she doesn't want to do a chore and thinks it is ok because she doesn't need the money?)
I am curious as to what everyone else does when it comes to chores. Thanks!
I guess my feelings on this are mixed and I wanted to see what everyone else does. We don't pay her to do chores but if she needs money for the pool, or if she sees a little something at dollar general etc. we either get it for her or I will give her a few dollars for snacks at the pool. No questions asked. We also let her sell the veggies from the garden and the jam we make etc. Half that money goes into her savings account and the other half she saves for when she wants something big. Right now she is saving (and almost there) for a Nintendo DS. Little does she know we bought her one for her birthday at the end of this month.
Her chores are not big tasks. She has to unload the dishwasher, make her bed, pick up her things, on big cleaning day once a week she has to dust and vaccum, carry her dirty laundry downstairs, and she mows the upper 1 1/2 acres of flat land once a week. That is it.
My 4 year old DS also has chores. He has to make his bed, carry his dirty laundry downstairs, tie up the garbage bag and put a new one in the garbage can, and on big cleaning day he has to stock our three bathrooms with toilet paper, soap etc. I really don't think these few chores each of them have to do is too much.
I don't require them to help me with the outside chores at all. Most of the time my DS will be out there helping me but I don't want them down there by themselves and when school starts in the fall my DD always has a ton of homework. We don't pay for good grades either. We usually reward her with a movie rental of her choice or we go out to eat at a resturant of her choice or she can have a friend spend the night, etc. I think good grades are for her own pride of doing a job well done and if she is trying her hardest and gets a B then that is all we can ask.
I never even thought of paying them for doing something I think just makes them responsible. I am wondering if I should just give them an allowance each week if they do all their chores and when it comes time to them wanting some money then they have to take it out of their allowance. But how much allowance should I give them? Or should I just keep it how it is and explain to her why I do it the way we have been. Or should I pay her for each of her chores and how much do I give her for each chore? (but what if she just decides she doesn't want to do a chore and thinks it is ok because she doesn't need the money?)
I am curious as to what everyone else does when it comes to chores. Thanks!
