Does it come in 3's? Sympathy Sought at my Pity Party

[d.k]

* Can I make a suggestion, too? Don't take this the wrong way, but. . . . . . Have you thought about changing your u/n? To maybe something like "no-worriesjen"? Kinda like the power of positive thinking. . .

 

[FlockEweFarm]

LOL, I have had the nickname "Calamity" since my days as a public service, when I was usually the only woman, usually the one in the middle of the fights, the explosions, or the chaos and the one most likely to emerge grinning and looking for my "Wild Bill", who, by the way, is still playing hard to get!

 

[English Chick]

massive hugs to you (((((HUGS))))))))) glad we dont have skunks here........hope all improves for you soon....

 

[ruby]

Has the skunk left? The four legged one under the house, if not you might try playing a radio to make it undesirable for him/her to be there. What to do about the EX, I dunno. Having gone though a eye infection last week for about 10 days I would go to a doctor again till I got a better answer. Sorry about the cost, the medicine I have to put in mine was $80.00. But it worked, that and and lots of compresses. I'm sure the irritants, either people, dogs or skunks can't help. Hang in there

 

[Linda in San Diego]

must have missed somehting - why are you taking care of an ex with an attitude? House payment? Leave him with the house, you go home or to a friend for a bit. Stinky dogs - stay with house and ex. You, kids and animals. If you are still caretaker for ex, it sounds like a self perpetuating misery for all involved. Just my opinion, take it or leave it. Leave the stinky dogs - that will drive him out. Then you can reclaim the house.

 

[FlockEweFarm]

Linda, I have tried to figure it out myself. I have sunk almost 10 years and all of my money, posessions, heart and soul into this property. Its not much, and in fact, I often joke that it is the ugliest house on the block, being that it is a 1974 doublewide with a chunk of siding missing off the front, but when I moved here, it was my first home, and I spent MONTHS, hauling loads of trash and junk away. I endured verbal abuse from his father, and I ripped up original 1974 avacado green carpets that reeked of animal waste, cigarrette smoke and just funk, I repainted and I just worked. I wrote for and got a loan to fix the place up,(before I knew trailers were a liability) and I put a new roof, carpets and laminate floors, windows and trim and doors, and all kinds of stuff, and I still kept working to clean the place up. He has not been continuously employed longer than 1 year since I have known him, and I was working 10-16 hour days for Schwanns and then coming home and cooking dinner and cleaning house, until something gave and my health failed. I dont just want to walk away from this place because dang it, he doesnt deserve it! He is a dope head that would lose this place in less than 6 months, and find a way to blame me for it.
I wish he would leave, but the cost of living up here is insane, so he cannot afford to move out and pay child support, so he would not pay child support, and then we would sink in short order. I just am trying to hang on until I finish my Masters degree in about 10 months, and then I am hoping to get placed in a teaching position that will pay me enough to handle things without him, and then I am clearing the air and letting him know just how much I loathe the very air he breathes, and how much I wish that he was sitting in a prison cell instead of my living room! My kids call him ,"daddy", but even they are tired of him sitting in his easy chair like a bloated Jabba the Hut, directing them with a fly swatter and yelling so loud that all the neighbors know our business.

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