Exactly. Find what works for you. I don't think anyone is hitting their dogs or abusing them in any way. Each dog needs something different out of us people and we all need to find what works. My dogs are my life. We are like one unit. We are a pack. My husband finds it funny I walk around our property with a pack of dogs all around me. He always knows where to find me.But i know everyone has their own perspective and teaching habits that they do and believe in