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(I don't have children, so take this for what it is worth)
The first thing is that my parents would have called the parents of the child doing the 'inviting' to get the 'pertinent information' about the "pool party", or there would've been no "pool party" for me.
Do parents do that these days?
Lisa
I always did when my kids were younger, and still do most of the time as youngest DS doesn't always know the answers, or maybe he just doesn;t care to share them with me
I will guess that the guest pass is a regular thing with the pool, and that the cost goes towards maintenance. If it is a big community party with an entry fee, then I would assume that they have some expenses that those are covering. However, I will say that we have a HUGE neighborhood shindig every year (largest in the city) and there is NO actual cost to any individuals--we do ask every resident to bring a side dish or dessert (based upon last name or lot number). The rest of the cost comes from our association budget.
A couple of questions that you need to find out--did the kids decide that it would be fun to do this together, as compared with a party planned by the parents? All of my kids have done this type of thing at one time or another--and it is actually a good thing that they are taking some responsibility for coordinating a social life--they just need to learn to keep parents completely in the loop. And did the parents tell their child or your daughter that there would be costs for which she was responsible? They might have expected to pay, but she already had before they were aware--I've had kid's friends do that when we take them to places together. However, a lot of outings ARE expensive, and it isn't really unreasonable to ask the other parents to pay for their child. We usually go to the Rensaissance Festival, and it is DARNED expensive to get in and to eat. Some souveniers are pretty pricey, too. The kids have always wanted to take friends once they were past 6 or 7. When we were the ones taking the kids, they always brought their own money, although when they were younger, we usually handled it for them. When our kids were the ones going with other parents, we always supplied plenty of money. But if someone had showed up without money, we'd have paid their way. Probably wouldn't have said anything to them, but would have griped about it amongst ourselves.
(I don't have children, so take this for what it is worth)
The first thing is that my parents would have called the parents of the child doing the 'inviting' to get the 'pertinent information' about the "pool party", or there would've been no "pool party" for me.
Do parents do that these days?
Lisa
I always did when my kids were younger, and still do most of the time as youngest DS doesn't always know the answers, or maybe he just doesn;t care to share them with me
I will guess that the guest pass is a regular thing with the pool, and that the cost goes towards maintenance. If it is a big community party with an entry fee, then I would assume that they have some expenses that those are covering. However, I will say that we have a HUGE neighborhood shindig every year (largest in the city) and there is NO actual cost to any individuals--we do ask every resident to bring a side dish or dessert (based upon last name or lot number). The rest of the cost comes from our association budget.
A couple of questions that you need to find out--did the kids decide that it would be fun to do this together, as compared with a party planned by the parents? All of my kids have done this type of thing at one time or another--and it is actually a good thing that they are taking some responsibility for coordinating a social life--they just need to learn to keep parents completely in the loop. And did the parents tell their child or your daughter that there would be costs for which she was responsible? They might have expected to pay, but she already had before they were aware--I've had kid's friends do that when we take them to places together. However, a lot of outings ARE expensive, and it isn't really unreasonable to ask the other parents to pay for their child. We usually go to the Rensaissance Festival, and it is DARNED expensive to get in and to eat. Some souveniers are pretty pricey, too. The kids have always wanted to take friends once they were past 6 or 7. When we were the ones taking the kids, they always brought their own money, although when they were younger, we usually handled it for them. When our kids were the ones going with other parents, we always supplied plenty of money. But if someone had showed up without money, we'd have paid their way. Probably wouldn't have said anything to them, but would have griped about it amongst ourselves.
