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[HHandbasket]

Yeah, my son says they have a grubbin' buffet. I've never been there, but my son would eat there when he would visit his father. Unfortunately, Big Al passed away last year at Christmastime. He was a big, friendly bear of a bartender.

As far as FB goes, I agree that when you hide your friends list, it does hide it from everyone. You should just talk to your wife and just ask her if you can see her friends list. Asking her doesn't necessarily mean you don't trust her, but approach it as being a way to open up to one another to BUILD trust (esp. if y'all are young and relatively newly married... you don't wanna mess things up or cause a fight, but she also shouldn't care whether you look at her friends list or not... and by the same token, you should never, ever have anything on your computer that you should hide from her, either).

I think the ONLY thing I semi-hide from my husband is that we both have a Word file on the computer that is our personal journal and is private. I don't get into his, and he doesn't get into mine, at least not that I know of... but if he did, that's fine. I just don't want him laughing at my wannabe-an-author writing style! Hehehe. But the file is not password protected. For other things that are, he has ALL my passwords in case of an emergency, as well. He doesn't have passwords to the programs I use for my job because that's all HIPAA-protected information & I can't legally give ANYBODY (not even my spouse!) access to that program. But he has passwords and access to literally everything else I do on the home computer. He could get on my FB page and read it/peruse it at his leisure if he so desired. I think that's the way it is with most married folks, unless one is hiding something.

 

[La Mike]

Only thing I hide from my wife is a case of beer ever now and then

 

[LegginMF12]

I could be talkin to Satan himself on FB and TBG wouldn't care! He has all of my passwords and I leave it open all of the time. I don't think I have logged out in months, Don't over react. Just let her know it makes you uncomfortable. personall have very few friend on FB. If I don't know them personally then they are not on it, period.

 

[Cluckin'Crazy4them]

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I love this. Well said.

 

[punk-a-doodle]

Here's a great chance to work on one of the major pillars of a solid relationship...communication! Ask your wife (in a non-accusatory, casual way) why she set her friends to a private setting. Remember, you are just asking why she made her friends private, not why she made it so you couldn't see them. As others have mentioned, she very well may have set it to private simply because facebook is a social networking site that targets any personal information of yours and friend lists for targeted ads, etc. I try to keep my account as closed and non-informative as possible. I believe it currently says my husband is dead, because he switched accounts, and it messed up the settings. X)

For me personally, I have all my husband's passwords, and he has all of mine. That said, we always ask if we are going to be getting into the others' email, facebook, etc. Some people prefer more privacy, and may have accounts their spouses do not have access to. Neither way is right or wrong, it is all about communicating with each other and finding a middle ground you both are happy with.

 

[twentynine]

I hide nothing from my wife.

And in return

I expect my wife to hide nothing from me.

No thought about it, everything out in the open. Never even the idea to hide something.

Nothing good comes from hiding. My mother in law used to say if you can't print it on your forehead you ought not be doing it.