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[desertdarlene]

OK, I'm going against the grain here and I know what I say is not the popular side of this issue. I do commend him for being a parent, so don't get me wrong. But, something really irritates me about this guy. Maybe because he reminds me of someone (or two) that I know. Here's what bothers me:

1. It's a little over the top and melodramatic (I can kinda see where his daughter might get some of her bad behavior/temper from).

2. The chores he says only "takes a minute" actually takes longer and I have a sneaky feeling that he's a perfectionist and demands that she does it exactly the way he wants or she has to do it over and over again. She also says that he (seeming deliberately) tracks mud on the floor right after she washes it and then demands she clean up after him when he does.

3. Why does she have to fill his coffee for him? I do think it's nice if she does so willingly, but does he demand she do it? Is it a sexist thing? Does he expect her to do this because she's a girl? Does she have any brothers who have to do this for him?

4. She seems to be a typical teenager acting out. We've all been there and I haven't heard of anyone else's property being shot.

5. It's a private matter that has gotten way too public on both ends.

OK, I know people are going to go all ape on me. I kinda expect that. I just think we're hearing only one side of the story.

 

[Matthew3590]

OK, I'm going against the grain here and I know what I say is not the popular side of this issue. I do commend him for being a parent, so don't get me wrong. But, something really irritates me about this guy. Maybe because he reminds me of someone (or two) that I know. Here's what bothers me:

1. It's a little over the top and melodramatic (I can kinda see where his daughter might get some of her bad behavior/temper from).

2. The chores he says only "takes a minute" actually takes longer and I have a sneaky feeling that he's a perfectionist and demands that she does it exactly the way he wants or she has to do it over and over again. She also says that he (seeming deliberately) tracks mud on the floor right after she washes it and then demands she clean up after him when he does.

3. Why does she have to fill his coffee for him? I do think it's nice if she does so willingly, but does he demand she do it? Is it a sexist thing? Does he expect her to do this because she's a girl? Does she have any brothers who have to do this for him?

4. She seems to be a typical teenager acting out. We've all been there and I haven't heard of anyone else's property being shot.

5. It's a private matter that has gotten way too public on both ends.

OK, I know people are going to go all ape on me. I kinda expect that. I just think we're hearing only one side of the story.

I doubt the reason she has to pour his coffee cup is because it is a sexist thing. My parents make me fill up theirs some times.

 

[desertdarlene]

I know there are single fathers who demand their daughters wait on them just because they feel like it's a woman's place to do so.

The reason why this bothers me is that I used to have to clean up after someone who made it his duty to make it difficult for me on purpose. For example, if I cleaned the living room, he would go get five separate bowls of cereal and leave all the dishes all over the place because he thought it was fun to watch me clean up after him. He would do other things, pretty much all the time he was home so that I would be constantly picking up after him and he loved it. Never cleaned up after himself one single bit. Then, I would get told how lazy I was and how I never did any housework, etc. That's what this situation smells like to me. Maybe it's not like that, but that's what I feel about it. I know it's only my own biases.

 

[deerman]

I know there are single fathers who demand their daughters wait on them just because they feel like it's a woman's place to do so.

The reason why this bothers me is that I used to have to clean up after someone who made it his duty to make it difficult for me on purpose. For example, if I cleaned the living room, he would go get five separate bowls of cereal and leave all the dishes all over the place because he thought it was fun to watch me clean up after him. He would do other things, pretty much all the time he was home so that I would be constantly picking up after him and he loved it. Never cleaned up after himself one single bit. Then, I would get told how lazy I was and how I never did any housework, etc. That's what this situation smells like to me. Maybe it's not like that, but that's what I feel about it. I know it's only my own biases.

he may have that old school , house work is for women/girls


my grandfather was like that.......but my dad and his brothers.......had to work like grown men on the old home place.....plowing the fields at 12 years old(with a mule). my thinking if he has a son bet he has his share to do.......I had my share , and made sure my sons did their part......without pay, that why they get what they got.

true story i broke my boys from leaving a room full of toys laying around....because if i had to pick them up. to the trash or goodwill..Funny looking back now , you should have seen them run to their room ,if i started upstairs......guess it may have been dumb, i payed for them...but they learned

 

[redhen]

OK, I'm going against the grain here and I know what I say is not the popular side of this issue.  I do commend him for being a parent, so don't get me wrong.  But, something really irritates me about this guy.  Maybe because he reminds me of someone (or two) that I know.  Here's what bothers me:

1.  It's a little over the top and melodramatic (I can kinda see where his daughter might get some of her bad behavior/temper from).

2.  The chores he says only "takes a minute" actually takes longer and I have a sneaky feeling that he's a perfectionist and demands that she does it exactly the way he wants or she has to do it over and over again.  She also says that he (seeming deliberately) tracks mud on the floor right after she washes it and then demands she clean up after him when he does.

3.  Why does she have to fill his coffee for him?  I do think it's nice if she does so willingly, but does he demand she do it?  Is it a sexist thing?  Does he expect her to do this because she's a girl?  Does she have any brothers who have to do this for him?

4.  She seems to be a typical teenager acting out.  We've all been there and I haven't heard of anyone else's property being shot.

5.  It's a private matter that has gotten way too public on both ends.  

OK, I know people are going to go all ape on me.  I kinda expect that.  I just think we're hearing only one side of the story.

Nah,...noone will jump on you for your opinion..everyone is entitled to one..

 

[redhen]

I think the kid is disrespectful and spoiled....
She cant even get coffee for her parents...but I bet her mother cooked her a nice breakfast though...
Just spoiled and only thinking of herself..IMO
BUT I don't live there so i cant really say for sure either way...

 

[eenie114]

How did you know they were divorced?

He mentioned her stepmom. You can't have a mom, and a dad, and a stepmom... Polygamy is illegal.

 

[Nitrous]

He mentioned her stepmom. You can't have a mom, and a dad, and a stepmom... Polygamy is illegal.

He is so busted. Mom really "shot the laptop" over that one, I bet.

 

[Illia]

So I actually got around to watching that video today and let me say it was just funny.

And I also have to say - I was one of those kids who did a lot of chores for the family but, wow. I never had the luxuries of a cellphone nor a laptop, the dishes I did were hand-done, not with a dishwashing machine, and were everyone's (family of over 5 people) not just mine, plus there were always farm and pet related chores too, and yet, I didn't go on about it especially on a place like Facebook. And lol I never asked to be paid for it, I understood very well about that, in fact I never got "allowance" either as many kids do these days.

So kudos to him and the actual firing at the laptop part made me laugh.


Yes it may be kinda shocking to some of thinking that a private issue like this should go so public, but hey - Facebook has serious consequences. Most teenagers are pretty darn public with that anyway, having easily more than 50 "friends" anything goes anywhere.

I think the coffee thing is just a small ritual as many families might have. For us it was dinner related as we're not coffee drinkers. Either you help make dinner, or at some point you make it yourself either for the family or your own. Doesn't need to be every day or anything, but, it helps teach kids how to sustain themselves. And getting coffee for parents is likely a practice of respect for them. Who knows.

 

[Frosty]

I have seen some of the stuff that my daughter wrote about me on fb, and yes kids can dramatize and yes it hurts to read it. She made it very clear that we were a failures as parents. And not just on fb... My brother and his GF came here from PA, the only time any of my family came to visit. My brothers GF told me that DD said that I don't normally cook for the family. That was a huge lie, but I don't think the GF believed me because she went back to PA and told my mother that apparently I don't cook. DD is staying with us for now because the job market is better here than in the area where she lives, and I recently mentioned that comment when she actually thanked me for fixing dinner one night. She just kind of laughed and said 'yeah, I'll have to straighten that out...'

I would have loved to shoot the computer when the kids were younger, but back then they didn't have their own. We just had one for the whole family to share. But I can say that the kids changed drastically after they started going on line. I guess that was when they found out that we weren't giving them enough and that we expected to much from them.