first grader home work....

[EweSheep]

Ugh got an email from her teacher last night that dd was defiant toward her about her seatwork and simply refused to finish her work. She was struggling with coins and her math problems and when she gets frustrated, she would go back to her desk and wrote all over her paper, its ALL wrong, its ALL wrong!

She is on her ADD meds and thought she has done well. Its been happening in the last few days and the teacher was in the point of sending her to detention next time. I know the teacher has the best interest in heart but it is frustrating for the teacher to be able to teach her anything and she knows dd can do well with her seatwork. I emailed to the teacher that dd was doing well at home behaviorwise but I am seeing a pattern here now. When she is bad at school, she is very good at home and when she is good in school, she gets nasty at home. I took her off from her ADD meds for three days, thinking maybe it is not working for her and boy, did we both pay for it, her nastyiness, hyperness and all that uglyiness came back ten fold. So I immediately put her back on her ADD meds. UGH!

She kept saying its too hard, too much homework and she could read the last page of her new reading book without any help! Possibly, could she be gifted? And her defiance toward her teacher and her homework "Its wrong, wrong wrong" when there are legit mistakes on her papers, and she would go back and put in the correct answers, squibble the minus two or minus three into a zero and star as if she did a great job. "The teacher is WRONG!" was her repeated answer when she wrote down the "correct" answers.

Her expectations of her homework and her school goals are too high and we tried to bring her down that she can do the best she can and don't go overboard on things she made her mistakes. Go back and correct them and turn them in correctly. Teacher personality conflicts? I don't know. I do like her teacher very much and her teacher is doing the BEST she can.

Can anyone explain why she feels she has that NEED to excel in everything she does? Playing games is the enemy for us, has to win on everything, gets downright nasty or mad when she loses or accuses people of cheating on the game when their game pieces are ahead of her piece. UGH! Teacher said she has some problems with that but not as drastic like she did at home.

I must have some kind of drama queen here. Oh, Lord, give me some patience here and be an advocate for my dd!

Jo, I wished they do not have homeworks for PreK to 2-3rd graders, its too much work getting from school and bringing it home. UGH!

 

[CowgirlPenny]

Wow, Ewesheep....did you kidnap my daughter? LOL She is almost 9 years old. Dyslexic and probably a little ADD but picks up things SO well. Except...reading. She just flat our refuses to do it. She's probably only reading on a 6-7yr old level. She did have a serious speech delay and at 4yrs old had the speech level of an almost two year old child, and THAT frustrated her. Years of Speech therapy helped tremendously.

As far as school work she doesn't like... she says its too hard, its stupid, takes too long,etc. Meanwhile my 6 year old is eagerly learning phonics and that infuriates her when he is praised or knows something she doesn't. I homeschool both of them, always have, always will (dh and I were both homeschooled) But she lacks motivation except when she has something to prove. Like your daughter, if she's not the best, the fastest, the tallest, smartest,etc. she is mad and we didn't do it right, we looked at her and made her mess up,etc. She is brilliant at math and science. In fact, if you quiz her (which she often asks me to do) and she doesn't know the answer she will ponder forever and won't let it go until she's figured out the right answer even when she's getting way too frustrated.

Is she your oldest? Maybe its oldest child syndrome. She has to finish dinner first, win all races, all board games, have the biggest icecream, the most milk in her cup, the bigger cookie. It never ends.

 

[JuanTuck]

As far as school work she doesn't like... she says its too hard, its stupid, takes too long,etc. Meanwhile my 6 year old is eagerly learning phonics and that infuriates her when he is praised or knows something she doesn't. I homeschool both of them, always have, always will (dh and I were both homeschooled) But she lacks motivation except when she has something to prove.

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