Foster Parenting

[Sillystunt]

thanks guys!

I just got back and brody did really well. they said, his story stayed the same and offered theropy. We don't think he needs it. it was an isolated case and happened once. it could have been worse. the 4 year old was repeating what she saw mommy and daddy do. %^& bag parents.

I don't blame her, she is a baby and i just wanted to make sure Brody was ok. It was like a bad law and order SVU epoisod.

My fear is brody will show another child "what" she did. They don't believe he will. The investigators were wonderful and very understanding to his needs. They are gonna investigate the parents, to make sure nothing funny happened.

We have decided that we will not take any children older than Brody who is 4. Just to be safe! I have a open door policiy for playing in rooms.That's how i snagged them. the door was shut, HELLZ NO! I busted that door wide open!And she was doing a NO NO to him. Now all the toys are being removed and the only place they can play is in the living room or outside.

I think i am the one who needs theropy...lol

this has tramatized me sooo bad. i feel so guilty cause i allowed these kids into my home. They said to me, you couldn't have known. Doesn't make me feel better. This whole thing has totally SUCKED ROTTEN EGGS~

 

[Boyd]

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I know this won't make it any better, but kids from regular ole families have been caught doing this as well. Especially if it's a see and repeat type of thing.

 

[Quack Shack]

Hi, folks. Just found this chat and I'm waiting for the completion of tasks for my licensing. My ped office hasn't being helpful with completing the requested forms for my bio kids. In fact, they lost them, twice. I think someone in the office has a preconceived notion of what a foster parent is and what they do. I've been through 23 hours of training, 4 hours of CPR/fluids/choking and passed my homestudy with no hitches. Hard waiting when I pickup the local news and see yet another incident of irresponsible parenting - around here, hot weather and no school equals lots of neglect. Glad you are all willing to share your experiences. I've got a great caseworker, too.

 

[Sillystunt]

welcome! This has been a great thread for fostering (thanks Boyd) i am glad to see another person helping children!

 

[Quack Shack]

Thanks so much! In the classes we took, only 3 of us were fostering. The other 9 couples were there trying to get custody of family members. So sad. They didn't associate with us so much I guess because they had already been in the system and were a bit jaded. Since I started training, I've met 2 women who came out of fostering with words of wisdom to give this newbie. I told them I'm listening. Glad to know there'a support system here, too.

 

[saddina]

In the last day of waiting (by the time they processed our paperwork our TB test was 13 months old, so we had to redo them yesterday).

Silly, if it makes you feel better, there's a slim chance that will repeat, but by all means if you need to talk to someone do so.

Boyd the girl we were interested in ran away from the group home and has been sent to a girl's ranch, runaways are not eligable for foster placement.

Quack, pull up a chair, or a martini, either or is fine.

 

[Quack Shack]

I had to pull out the whiskey and just a dash of ice after many of those training sessions and from what I've read on this thread. Whew! Man, all the stuff that doesn't make it to the headlines and yet, you all have the strength to pull yourself and kids through it. It's a sacrifice on many levels.

 

[Boyd]

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Sometimes I go round and round and round. I'll be one less kid next week, as I had to put in my two weeks notice one one that decided they no longer had to live by my rules. Needless to say they are doing everything they can to be back in my good graces

Too late.

 

[Sillystunt]

i seem to like Rocky Mtn Mother darn~ 1/3 so co, 1/3 ameretto, 1/3 sweet lime

I haven't drank in years but those bottles are looking good! lol

 

[Quack Shack]

My son has a bud that has filled him in on what it's like to be a foster kid and it was an eye-opener for my son. I've heard less complaints at the dinner table and a little more attention to the chores that are his. Rules and routine make the world go around and everything in it. I point to the chickens and say, they make my case for me, now don't they? He just nods to the affirmative. Too bad some just don't get it but I hope that you'll have more that do than don't.