I've read this whole thread over the last two days, and I've not seen one person except for Speckledhen mention the children themselves...as in, what works for one may not work for another.
I was swatted, got the belt, soap in the mouth, all that stuff; I'm fine psychologically now, and a contributing member to society. I'm a degreed professional, my boss and co-workers like me, and I get along fine with most folks.
BUT...I have to say, my brother has three kids that I watched get raised from another state. One of my nephews did NOT respond to paddling or swatting at all. It made him worse. Made him get very quiet, want to be alone, and regress from his siblings and family. I'm not a psychologist, but obviously the paddlings had the wrong effect on him. He's now 12, and I'm somewhat worried about what sort of an adult he'll be as a result of this. His brother and sister, on the other hand, learned quickly from a swat and seem no worse for the wear, psychologically. JMO!!
I was swatted, got the belt, soap in the mouth, all that stuff; I'm fine psychologically now, and a contributing member to society. I'm a degreed professional, my boss and co-workers like me, and I get along fine with most folks.
BUT...I have to say, my brother has three kids that I watched get raised from another state. One of my nephews did NOT respond to paddling or swatting at all. It made him worse. Made him get very quiet, want to be alone, and regress from his siblings and family. I'm not a psychologist, but obviously the paddlings had the wrong effect on him. He's now 12, and I'm somewhat worried about what sort of an adult he'll be as a result of this. His brother and sister, on the other hand, learned quickly from a swat and seem no worse for the wear, psychologically. JMO!!