Get married nagging

[lauriemae15]

You might just give them the old Ann Landers quote. "It is better to be single than wish you were". When I was a young married, my husband and I made the decision not to have children. I noticed that the people that were the least comfortable in their own role of being parents were the ones that nagged the loudest about why we ought to have kids. The couples that seemed the most content and comfortable being parents didn't seem to care one way or the other about whether we had kids or not. I wonder if it may be the same with those that keep trying to hook you upeven though you arenot interested.

We are going through this right now! We've been married 4 years and decided before we were even married that we don't want kids. All my friends with kids seem to be making it their mission in life to change our minds and its getting very annoying. My family has pretty much given up on us but they were annoying in the beginning too. Why can't people just mind their own business!

 

[sumi]

We have one child, who's 6 now. Up 'till a year ago people, even ones we barely knew, would tell us we should have another one. Some would tell me straight in my face it's time I get pregnant again and criticised our decision to only have the one child. It got really irritating and I came pretty close to saying some rather rude things in answer, but DH came up with a better, more polite way to shut them up. Earlier this year we went shopping with MIL and someone we vaguely knew asked, not for the first time, "What about a brother or a sister." DH laughed and said "No, my mother is too old now" (She's in her 70's) Needless to say that person didn't ask again!

 

[MamaRoo]

Quote:
I have conversations like this:
Childed friend: "We just spent a ton of money on school clothes. I can't believe how fast they grow"
me: "Oh. Gee. I'm going to Spain for a month. Have fun dressing the kids."

 

[PaulaSB12]

What gets me is people don't understand there is a difference in being alone and being lonely. I like living alone at the moment it suits me fine to just be me 4 cats and 14 chickens. So why should I marry just because its the done thing? My aunt is in her 80's and after she divorced many years ago has lived alone happily. I can understand her as I couldn't before.

 

[hollys chooks]

Ever since I was a little girl I haven't wanted to get married. I was with my ex partner for 12 years, when he brought up the idea of marriage I talked him out of it.
I've been by myself for 9 years, very happily single.
As for people who nag about having kids, invariably they complain about their offspring at some point and my response is "Serves you right for breeding."

 

[PaulaSB12]

I am really getting it over my christmas plans. My sister was worried about me being at home alone this christmas as its the first without my mum. So I am going to spend it at disney I have always wanted to do a disney christmas and now I will, my sister not only understands but thinks its a great idea.

 

[SillyChicken]

I'll tell you why......... cause misery loves company!

Disney for the holiday sounds like fun! I hope you have a great time!

One thing I'd never do is push marriage or children on any one.. that's a personal choice... not mine. I'm glad I stuck with my decision not to have kids. I have a step daughter and that experience was enough to cure any thoughts I may have had of kids.

And........ if my current marriage ends......... there is no way in H E double toothpicks that I'll get married again!

 

[oldrooster]

What gets me is people don't understand there is a difference in being alone and being lonely. I like living alone at the moment it suits me fine to just be me 4 cats and 14 chickens. So why should I marry just because its the done thing? My aunt is in her 80's and after she divorced many years ago has lived alone happily. I can understand her as I couldn't before.

I have found cats give me all the love I will ever need or want they purr and snuggle so why would I ever not feel loved????