Getting married and moving out!

all good advices too!!!! I agree with almost all of your girls in here about communication and how to go about it. Sometimes hubby forgot and I simply say, Hon, didn't we forgot to take the garbage out? and before the last word gets said, he would jump to it. Always thank after that forgetfullness. YOu dont have to thank each other every little thing but big things that are meaningless to our spouses, like our chickens, I would thank him for helping me out gathering up the chicks that got out of the pen.

Second hand furnitures are great or the hand me downs from parents and relatives are super! I prefer the solid oaks, none of the particle boards type things, and if it needs some work to it, you can finish any color the way you want it. Even with the French Provercial tall dresser, even it does not go with our dark oak wheat carved headboard, I can paint it and do similar wheat pattern to it. I need to get ideas for the top and how to hide the French design. It is WHITE and gold, bleck but don't let that stop you! It will last for YEARS and you may never need to replace it or pass it down to your kids!
 
Hehe... we've been married 12 years now and STILL have hand me down furniture.

There are exceptions... IE the bunkbeds in DD's room, originally were bought for DSs room, then they both had one in their rooms, until niece came to live with us so both went to her room and then Sis gave us her set of bunks so we'd have enough beds... then there's DHs chair. His mom insisted he needed a recliner so she bought him one for his b-day. And there's the dining table. We'd used the one his sister had given us back in '98, one chair had broken (son leaning back dangit) but other than that it was still perfect. Pull the ends apart and the leaf flipped up, awesome table. But MIL just didn't see it as awesome like us and insisted on a new one for Christmas. We did manage to get her to stick to the Unclaimed Freight store (as with the recliner) but it was still like $600. Which seems INSANE to me. Other than those two pieces all our furniture is still used, thrift store, hand me down, or side of the road (bookshelves) and it works great and has for years. Actually, that table that was so horrible is in the garage, still sturdy, used as my 'laundry table'.

Suffice it to say I'm all for 2nd hand.

Actually, that goes for clothes and shoes too when possible. I'm a thrift store/yard sale fiend. I pass down or donate what we're done with to local charities so even more use can be gotten.

My weakness is the kitchen gadgets... latest being the $20 dehydrator that I handed to DH last Sat and said "Here this is what you're getting me for our anniversary"
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Also have gotten a food processor, blender, and fryer for Christmas/B-days. I get a nice kitchen, gift that keeps giving, and EVERYONE enjoys it... if not directly. Mom, In Laws, etc ask for a wish list for me it's usually things like that, GC to Home Depot, etc. Something you might want to consider too.
 
Agree with all that has been said. Been married for 40 years and here are my thoughts for what they are worth!
Marriage works best when you share the same values. This doesn't mean you have to view the world in exactly the same way, differences are good too. Make sure you both understand that this will be a partnership of equals, no senior/junior partners. Always be courteous and respectful to each other, no taking each other for granted. Men are generally not very good communicators and in my experience cannot read between the lines, see the writing on the wall, feel the tension in the air, or notice the body language, so be upfront and talk things out
 

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