Getting rid of ducks if we have a bad winter! :(

[KansasKid]

You have to hold strong and talk her out of it. There is no good reason for her to make you get rid of them. I also think baking something out of the eggs or showing the usefulness or simple cute/funniness might work. Good luck.

 

[StevenW.]

psshhhh thanks everyone but wat she says goes i cant do anything in turned into a yelling thing and im giving up its like watever

 

[redhen]

I wouldnt argue with her. Its her house and rules. You need to respect that.

 

[StevenW.]

hehe respect! is 14 a teenager and i respected her when she loved the baby ducklings! and know she doesnt like them (likes them when babys know she hates them??)

 

[katharinad]

Have you ever thought about writing a letter to her how you feel. Tell her what they mean to you, and how they make you feel. Tell her that they fulfill your life and keep you honest and away from drugs or bad influences etc. Perhaps that is going to change her mind. Perhaps you can settle on fewer ducks. A compromise between you and her. Just don't blame her for anything and don't yell, that just proves her point of view.

 

[StevenW.]

she doesnt listen or wants to listen thats the point watever but she said i could get more chicks next year to replace them

 

[FenDruadin]

I just noticed your sig line--you have a lot of birds!

Just made me wonder--maybe your mom just doesn't want to feed so many animals all winter long? Lots of folks thin out their flocks in the winter and then hatch more babies or buy more animals in the Spring. It's hard when they're your babies, but it looks like you're planning to hatch in the spring (new incubator on its way), and maybe thinning the flock is a necessary evil for hatching?

It also occurs to me--you have a lot more chickens than ducks. In my experience, keeping any one *kind* of animal is simpler than multiple kinds. So maybe what your mom wants is for you to narrow your flock to the type of animal you have most of (rather than getting rid of a whole bunch of chickens, just get rid of a few ducks).

I'm not trying to interfere, but just a little perspective on what your mom might be thinking.

Arguing is probably pointless. Understanding where she is coming from might be helpful though--if she knows you're trying to understand her, she might explain more fully. Then you'll either see her point and feel better about the whole thing, or be better prepared to discuss and compromise and come up with a solution that works for both of you.

Living together is hard, even when you're both adults on equal terms. Even harder when you know you have less power in the relationship. But moms rarely act out of deliberate meanness, and learning to negotiate & compromise & understand each other is a useful skill for the future too. Wish I had learned more of that earlier!

Good luck.

 

[StevenW.]

u r probably rite buttttttt my dad pays for the feed and we get free corn since hes a farmer..... blahhhh guess ill just give in but ill miss my baby crested black swedish female she was my favorite

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Maybe ask to keep just her? I think that's reasonable.

 

[katharinad]

You are saying your mother is not listening, but you are doing the same thing. You say I just give in and use the words blah and whatever. This may put you into the stubborn child position and your mom is sick of it. Really try to come up to her a little bit too and don't just give in. Negotiate a little bit, because it shows your mother that you care and that you are responsible. Perhaps you can keep two or three ducks after all.