Getting rid of ducks if we have a bad winter! :(

[StevenW.]

is very happy mom said i can keep all the females and 1 male!!!! she wants to get turkeys next year!

 

[dumb_cluck]

Ummm.....is it because they are not "cute" anymore? This topic should have been discussed WAAAAY before this decision.

 

[katharinad]

Well that is good news. So there was some negotiating going on after all. Sometimes it helps to just sleep over it and then try to have a rational discussion the next day where everyone makes some compromises. You are only 14 and there is still alot to be learned about how to deal with issues or other people. Trust me I have had a lot of bad discussions with my family when I was young. It's all part of growing up and you kind of learn the hard way. The key is to stay calm and to show feelings. Really nothing better then to butter it all up and make the other person feel guilty. Works like charm.

 

[desertdarlene]

I'm glad you get to keep your ducks. Sounds like you and your mom came to a good compromise.

 

[mommyofthreewithchicks]

I am glad that you two were able to discuss things. Mom's can bend a bit but always remember that Mom makes the rules. Sometimes us Mom's don't/can't tell you all the reasons we do things.... So I know that after discussing something and I say no again- the argument is over. I am the adult in the house and while I like that my kids give input, everything is on my shoulders (and DH's)- we are looking at the bottom line, the overall effect on the family as well as how things impact our children. Lots of factors go into the decisions I make and when I had teens they just had to trust that I had their back- One of those decisions was to give their dog back to their Dad. I am sad that we had to give up the dog at the time but we were struggling to juggle everything in life including how to put food on the table and I was the only one giving this dog attention and love and it was too much. I know 10 years later they still question that decision but as 20 somethings they now understand that we were choosing THEM over the dog. The dog was pushing us over the edge of reason and thankfully we figured out we were dealing with too much. I hope I don't have to make that decision again.

 

[StevenW.]

Thank You!! Everyone!

 

[pirtykitty]

This means you can keep your favorite male... 6 ducks total is a good number to care for.. I'm glad it worked out for you.. Tell your mom that duck eggs make fantastic cakes, chocolate chip cookies. Pan cakes and waffles.. We also eat ours as omeletes, and sometimes scrambled with a little milk and cheese.. Duck eggs are a chefs secret weapon in baked goods..

 

[Me & My Peeps]

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I have to agree with RedHen. There may be some other reason that she does not want to tell you about, so you are not concerned about it. These are tough times in the country right now......harder than anyone alive - has lived through.

I also agree that if the chickens in your signature is an accurate number, that is a LOT of feed/care/space. On the other hand, I admire your dedication at 14 to care for that many animals and I am sure your mom took that into consideration, when she made the decision to reduce the numbers. I would try one last time to talk to your mom about it and explain the facts.......dont let it get emotional or allow it to become an arguement. In the end if she doesnt back down, youll have to live with the decision.

Again im sure that there are reasons beyond what she's telling you and sometimes, we just have to accept that some things in life are beyond our control. There are hundreds of folks here on this site that would LOVE to be able to have that many birds. Some can only have 2-3 and some have to hide 2-3 from public view.

 

[bock]

I am 14, and I have 15 ducks, 2 geese, and 11 chickens. My parents got these birds for my little sister and I, and we take care of them in every except when my parents buy the food and my dad and I build coops together. I love my birds, and I feel very lucky that I am able to keep all of them. You might try selling eggs locally, I have found that makes up for much of the food costs and then I can pay my parents back.

I am glad you got to keep your ducks! I hope you won't have to go through this again.

 

[quiltbea]

I'm glad Mom relented.
Remember in the future, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.
In other words, be nice, nice, nice and talk softly to get your point across.
Ducks will take the winter a lot easier than chickens.