Getting tired of rudeness....

[gimmie birdies]

I have been on here for years, but when I first was on here, I had to learn the ebb and flow of BYC, I hope I have. Most people are not mean, but sometimes, things get lost in text. Many people here want to help and I don't always need help, I will some times make a statement. I have learned to mention that in a post. For example, "Something really funny happened today in the coop, but I don't need advise, I am just sharing."

 

[Bigtom Turkey]

I respectively disagree. I think we all need to be concerned with weather we are offending someone. There is almost always a way to communicate our point without being rude, or offensive. Some times we may have to put a little more thought in how we choose our words to make our point. It's not what we say, but how we say it. And trust me, I'm not a sensitive cuddly guy, in fact most consider me to be a hardnose.

The only reason (in my mind) to try to me nice (not like I try to me rude, just not trying to be nice) would be if you are talking to somebody you are either friends with or want to be, or you respect them (I.E. your boss) And there aren't a whole lot of people here that fall in to that category. But then my view is I only have (outside of family) three friends, and over 200 acquaintances.

 

[addctd2plnts]

I guess after Facebook this site has seemed incredibly warm and kind. As a human doctor with ample experience working for small vets, I get frustrated sometimes when holistic "treatments" which are not medically proven are shoved down new people's throats. I feel obligated to present a person with a choice, but instead of presenting it as "right", I always try to give the medical rationale for why a treatment is a good option. And I try to offer a veterinary article with gentle support of the medical treatment. Ultimately, people will always make their own choice. I try very hard not to ever be rude.

I will confess that when people come on and post horrific photos of their slaughtered flocks, begging for sympathy, and mention there were numerous attacks before the final slaughter, my love for the poor unprotected animals (and anger at the lack of caring from their human protectors), may have made me show less than enthusiastic compassion. I still try to provide constructive suggestions for how to remedy the situation so it never happens again, mainly because if it KEEPS happening they will leave poultry, and that's a shame. This does not apply to people who have a first attack or are clearly not understanding the level of protection they must provide to keep a flock truly safe. Most days I try to steer clear of the "slaughter" posts LOL

 

[Bigtom Turkey]

Yeah, I get so frustrated with the slaughter threads. Not because the birds died (which is sad) but because they are acting like THEY are the victim, and begging for simpathy. Not asking questions to fix they issue.

 

[Akachicklil]

I am rather snarky, it is simply because I don't really care about offending the other person. This is a CHICKEN website not a "everybody is mean to me" site. I love BYC and the fact that people can talk about other things on it, but the fact of the matter is It is about chickens not feelings. But then I am not a emotional guy...

You do you.

 

[Akachicklil]

I respectively disagree. I think we all need to be concerned with weather we are offending someone. There is almost always a way to communicate our point without being rude, or offensive. Some times we may have to put a little more thought in how we choose our words to make our point. It's not what we say, but how we say it. And trust me, I'm not a sensitive cuddly guy, in fact most consider me to be a hardnose.

 

[Bigtom Turkey]

You do you.

I have had many years of practice to do me. I am am becoming a pro. Thank you for the kinds words... er... picture of a hand.

 

[U_Stormcrow]

Yeah, I get so frustrated with the slaughter threads. Not because the birds died (which is sad) but because they are acting like THEY are the victim, and begging for simpathy. Not asking questions to fix they issue.

...almost as good as when they show up on the illness/injury page with a bird obviously suffering from dietary deficiencies, then promptly dismiss the input and advice of a half dozen or more respected, experienced posters offering the same prescription because "the bird seems fine". If it seemed fine, one would assume there would be no need to craft a post seeking assistance on the injury/illness threads...

Teach me to make assumptions about my fellow humans, I suppose.

Ignorance can be remedied by education, but you can't cure stupid.

 

[Akachicklil]

I have had many years of practice to do me. I am am becoming a pro. Thank you for the kinds words... er... picture of a hand.

You’re welcome