Granny's gone and done it again

[h2oratt]

Hi, I go by Jory. It actually has a mineral meaning.

About a year and a half ago DH bamboozled my daughter and I into an arrangement neither of us wanted. We live in a shared tenancy in a small 3 bedroom mobile on a piece of property that none of us can afford alone.

Grandma, me, never intended to need to raise another child. Especially one so spoiled and used to his own way. We went rounds for a while. He did learn to control himself and quit hitting his teachers, classmates, and caregiver.

I tried really hard to tell DH that I was too old to take on a child and a homestead at this point.

The child is better, the property looks like crap.

Last summer (2020) DH had to go on a warranty repair in Barrow, Alaska. It was okay, but he was gone when the work needed done.

This summer (2021) DH had to go on a warranty repair on Shishmaref island in the bearing sea.
He came home in a very small box after walking into a 'Rona delta-d outbreak that he wasn't prepared for.
He died Oct 5.

So, here I sit, with people who don't really want me, in a situation we can't afford. Trying to work out who needs notification, what to do, and fending off his family members who are determined to take his ashes away.
We were married for 37 years.

So, a new beginning for me I guess. Once I can find somewhere I actually can belong.

Hi jory, welcome to the award winning thread of BYC

 

[h2oratt]

Hi, I go by Jory. It actually has a mineral meaning.

About a year and a half ago DH bamboozled my daughter and I into an arrangement neither of us wanted. We live in a shared tenancy in a small 3 bedroom mobile on a piece of property that none of us can afford alone.

Grandma, me, never intended to need to raise another child. Especially one so spoiled and used to his own way. We went rounds for a while. He did learn to control himself and quit hitting his teachers, classmates, and caregiver.

I tried really hard to tell DH that I was too old to take on a child and a homestead at this point.

The child is better, the property looks like crap.

Last summer (2020) DH had to go on a warranty repair in Barrow, Alaska. It was okay, but he was gone when the work needed done.

This summer (2021) DH had to go on a warranty repair on Shishmaref island in the bearing sea.
He came home in a very small box after walking into a 'Rona delta-d outbreak that he wasn't prepared for.
He died Oct 5.

So, here I sit, with people who don't really want me, in a situation we can't afford. Trying to work out who needs notification, what to do, and fending off his family members who are determined to take his ashes away.
We were married for 37 years.

So, a new beginning for me I guess. Once I can find somewhere I actually can belong.

What state do you live in?

 

[h2oratt]

Good might

 

[Jory]

Good night, I live in Oregon.

 

[CapricornFarm]

Boy I've learned that one .. a long time ago. I have a son with Spina Bifida. Born in the 80's. I learned real quick to watch, and, say. Same went for the nurses that were in charge. I had favorites when when he was in for any of his surgeries. If it was another nurse, they were watched like a hawk. Had to do some things myself at times. Like catheterize him when it they kept getting it wrong. Yes, watch. My husband actually saved my life after a surgery I had. A hysterectomy. The Dr. had left some bleeders. My BP kept dropping. Nurses were out in the hall having a go away party for another nurse. My BP kept dropping.. husband was watching the machine .. kept going out to get a nurse. At first they said it was normal for it to drop right after surgery. But it kept going down. Finally he's out there telling them..this isn't normal. Long story short. They.. finally get the Dr. to answer his page. He gets there to see me blending in with the sheets as he put it..has to open me up and stop three bleeders he admits he left thinking they were small enough to stop on their own. I needed three units of blood.

Malpractice! You could have died!

 

[CapricornFarm]

Oh.. sorry. I have that too.

Idk why i need to get incurable diseases. It really is miserable when you know it's never going to end until you die.

 

[CapricornFarm]

Good night everyone!

 

[Granny Hatchet]

Morning all, slept ok. Could of slept more. I dont need to leave til 1:30 . appts at 3 but takes an hr to get there and I need the bank and gas. Probably be early. I normally am.
Small chest pains this morning. Nerves maybe. The older I get the weaker I seem to become. Mentally that is. Of course my body is trash. I used to be a very strong and steady person. Seems like too many things bother me now that never did before.
Anyway, Hows peeps this fine freezing morning??

 

[cherrynberry]

Morning all, slept ok. Could of slept more. I dont need to leave til 1:30 . appts at 3 but takes an hr to get there and I need the bank and gas. Probably be early. I normally am.
Small chest pains this morning. Nerves maybe. The older I get the weaker I seem to become. Mentally that is. Of course my body is trash. I used to be a very strong and steady person. Seems like too many things bother me now that never did before.
Anyway, Hows peeps this fine freezing morning??

Piglets!!!

Good luck on your appointment Granny!

 

[cherrynberry]

Morning all, slept ok. Could of slept more. I dont need to leave til 1:30 . appts at 3 but takes an hr to get there and I need the bank and gas. Probably be early. I normally am.
Small chest pains this morning. Nerves maybe. The older I get the weaker I seem to become. Mentally that is. Of course my body is trash. I used to be a very strong and steady person. Seems like too many things bother me now that never did before.
Anyway, Hows peeps this fine freezing morning??

My family are usually barely on time. We are very uncoordinated and often forget this and that.