Maybe going through the motions might help her get through? I wish her success. What surgery is she having, if you don't mind my asking?
She's been having mysterious nerve issues in her wrist, arm, and neck. At first they tried an injection in the neck, but it didn't change anything so they ruled out something or other (sorry, I can't remember).
They decided on this surgery where they will relieve pressure on the tendon at her wrist through some artful cutting, and move the tendon near her elbow to a slightly different location.
I was a little doubtful that any of this sounds like a good idea, but mom is very eager to get it done because her tramadol and gabapentin aren't doing enough to relieve the pain.