K. Think I'm close to 2X your age. Been there done that, got the T shirt. me thinks Mom is jealous of you, your independence relatively happy life and successful marriage. Jealous that you have a successful job and career, are well organized and are enjoying life. Ieee. You are the mom to your kids. Can you insist that all gifts and treats be divided equally or nothing? Can you make a point of bragging about how much you love your alone time when DH goes camping? As far as dogs and chickens, I'd flat out azz up. "I love my dogs and my chickens. If you don't like dogs or chickens, don't own them, but shut up about mine"!