Red... sorry I'm 2 days late replying. I've been thinking so much about you. I hope you find this post. You're not the slightest bit offensive! I probably am for scolding you! I absolutely understand how you feel not being able to be the bread winner and Mr. fix all. You are a very honorable man. What I wanted you to know is that other people don't see you that way. Getting down on yourself for something you have no control over is human, but it's really preventing you from being the best you can be.
Can your dr possibly prescribe you a regular wheelchair that you can push by yourself? Anyway, I think you're awesome!
Wish you lived close...I'd take you to Disney, we always take a crip with us so we can cut the line!

Bad joke, but point is, needing a hand is never a problem and you always have something to give in return.