Right Red, but he's 83 and is having surgery. What he means is he's not comfortable having me wash him and cook for him and feed him and bath him. That he considers a burden. so farking what you have a wheelchair. Most of my best most active friends are in chairs. 24/7! So what. They live life and are active! They get my sorry but outta the house! You might try to get a chair you can use without being pushed if it'd make you feel better. You've probably got about 40 or so years left to live. Wanna make the best of it?