grannys gone and done it

[lindalouly]

You said they boys talk to hi on fb?
Do you think he already told the boys he was coming?
Hyping them up?

I don't know for sure yet cause the boys are gone right now but I have a feeling

 

[Sally Sunshine]

Have a great day, stay cool friends I should clean the pantry in the cool kitchen I guess or take a nap lol

 

[Kiki]

I don't know for sure yet cause the boys are gone right now but I have a feeling

I hope he is not hyping them up.

 

[Kiki]

I need to clean my fridge!

Have fun cleaning Sally...I mean napping!

 

[Kiki]

Granny Did you sell those Serama chicks to that person who email ya?

 

[Sally Sunshine]

I need to clean my fridge!

Have fun cleaning Sally...I mean napping!

dang I should do that too!!! does it ever end? ughhhh

nap is looking promising

 

[Kiki]

Camp are you picking up those silkies today?

 

[Granny Hatchet]

@granny hatchet

Hey all. I have a situation that I need advice on. My ex left over 9 years again. He occasionally messages the boys on fb. On their birthdays but besides that has not seen my kids the whole time. Vinnie doesn't even know him.. He was three when he left. He left me a message saying that he will be back in the middle of august to visit. I'm sure he told the older boys already though I'm not positive. I lived through a lot of heartache with those boys when he left. I don't want to go through again. I don't want Vinnie to feel anxiety or anything about having to meet him but I think thr big boys will want to see him. I don't trust the ex's set of friends or family either. I don't know what to do... I don't want yo upset the big ones either but they will just have their heart broken again. Any advice would be great.

Morning, Linda,

I am so sorry. yes, been there done that. Your older boys have had plenty of time to know what kind of person their mom is and loves her all the more for taking care of them in a bad situation. I would trust their judgement on what they want to do. They will of course ask him questions and he will more then likely lie and defend himself (2 sides to every story) . With that being said, They wont trust him, they know how long he has been gone . They are not dumb kids. I think the question would be , Is the older boys strong enough to protect the little ? If not, It would be a supervised visit and you have that right. After 9 years I would be a bit suspicious of what he is after. Does he owe child support ? pick a meeting place and have the po po meet him ! LOL A public meeting place like a restaurant would be ideal . You can watch from a far.

 

[lindalouly]

Morning,  Linda, I am so sorry. yes, been there done that.  Your older boys have had plenty of time to know what kind of person their mom is and loves her all the more for taking care of them in a bad situation.  I would trust their judgement on what they want to do.  They will of course ask him questions and he will more then likely lie and defend himself (2 sides to every story) . With that being said, They wont trust him, they know how long he has been gone .  They are not dumb kids. I think the question would be , Is the older boys strong enough to protect the little ? If not, It would be a supervised visit and you have that right.  After 9 years I would be a bit suspicious of what he is after. Does he owe child support ? pick a meeting place and have the po po meet him ! LOL  A public meeting place like a restaurant would be ideal . You can watch from a far.

That's a good idea. I knew you would have great advice. He has no custody. Remember last month or something I was surprised he sent 100 in child support. I will work with that.

 

[Granny Hatchet]

That's a good idea. I knew you would have great advice. He has no custody. Remember last month or something I was surprised he sent 100 in child support. I will work with that.

he sent it because he had plans already. ? Or , If I have to send money I want something out of it ? You know him better then we do. Is he a drunk, beater, or a good guy that just didnt work out ? No, you dont have to let him see the kids at all if you have concerns but in another 9 yrs. he will be back telling them he tried all he could to visit and you wouldnt let him. Dont let that stop you if you feel their safety is involved.