Great DH, bad dogs! another update page 11

[Skyesrocket]

I'm trying to figure this out. An old incontinent dog pees on the floor. He knows the dog does this but isn't wearing slippers or looking out for puddles and for some reason you get punished for it with the silent treatment? This is your fault, how?

Hubby needs a wake up call and a reality check.

 

[horsejody]

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Ditto. If anybody ever kicks one of my animals like a football it had better be because the animal went crazy and was attacking him. That sounds pretty cruel. I truly hope that the football analogy was an exaggeration. Otherwise, it's best that the person who did it to never have any contact with animals. Personally, I couldn't live with a person that could be so callous.

 

[horsejody]

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That puts an interesting twist on this.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

So if you absolutely refuse to put the dog outside then you need to do something else. Take it to the vet and try some medication. If that doesn't work then it may be time to consider putting it down. I'm not saying that to be mean but just as in the case of many animals there is a time when it needs to be done for the animal as well as the household. Having animals that pee in the house in many people's opinions is gross and intolerable. That just may be the line that your hubby can't tolerate. While you may consider the dog to be in reasonably good health your hubby doesn't feel incontinence is reasonable for an animal in his home. Sure you own the house but it is your hubby's home as well.

What I would do is take the dog to the vet for meds. Ask hubby who sounds like a wonderful builder to build a dog house with you (this is one of my favorite projects I did with my hubby). Put the younger ones out. This way he sees you trying and it may be enough. But putting your foot down saying my house, my pets, my way shows him that your pets are more important than he is.

The cat thing sounds like he was just at a point of frustration with it all. And having an animal take the mans spot is just not a good thing. I sympathize with both your hubby and the cat.

 

[deb1]

I agree with compromise. Putting the dog on meds or having the dog wear a diaper sound like good ideas.

The husband may not be used to having pets. So, he might not understand what he is supposed to accept from a dog. It might simply take being very open with him when his behavior bothers you.

Also, if he has never been married before, he might not understand that pouting over something like a cat getting in your seat, is a bad way to commnuicate. Maybe he just needs you to explain that he is coming across in a much more childish manner then he would want. Sometimes I think that couples-especially young ones-need to help one another learn and grow.

Dogs are pack animals. Most breeds need the social interaction of humans. It seems cruel to me to stick a dog that is used to being physically close to his humans outdoors. Besides, it isn't as if the wife suddenly sprung the pets on the man. He knew they were there when he married her.

When my hubby and I first married, he didn't like dogs and I disliked cats. We have learned to adjust to each other's favorite animals. Now I understand and like cats and he feels the same about dogs.

Is there a type of pet that your hubby wants? Maybe you could get him one.

 

[deb1]

double post. please ignore.

 

[Toast n Jelly]

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Yup.

 

[thebritt]

Hey folks - one can't just put out a 17 yr old minpin outside after 17 yrs of living inside. That's just ridiculous. I don't care how beautiful and "cozy" the doghouse is. The dog will just stand next to the gate, waiting until someone realizes their mistake in leaving him out and freeze to death in the night. Think about it!

 

[LegHorn-BusHorn]

Well, yesterday he sent me a text saying, He hoped I was having a nice day! LAME! I of course did not respond. He never came home last night until well after I was asleep. Today he calls me and says he wants to make an appointment with me to talk. As if he doesn't know where I will be. I said OK, I guess, tonight. So when I got home he wasn't here. Well, I got another text saying he will be home at 7:30 and it's 7:45 right now. Now I am getting to tired to even think about a serious conversation but thank goodness tomorrow is Friday. If anyone wants an update let me know. Thanks!

 

[Califowlday]

Yes updates would be nice. Good luck with your talk (if it happens) remember to breath and have a clear mind. Just a few suggestions.