Just shy of 2,000 posts, I think I need to take a break form BYC. Last year, I took a break for a couple weeks because I felt like it was taking up too much of my time. Now, I will take a break for a different reason.
I began this thread to ask others if they have ever taken a break & why. I also want to explain why I am going to take time off.
This morning, I read a quote from the Dali Lama: "...compassion, the natural capacity of the human heart to feel concern for and connection with another human being,constitutes a basic aspect of our nature shared by all human beings,as well as being the foundation of our happiness. All ethical teachings, whether religious or nonreligious, aim to nurture this innate and precious quality, to develop it and to perfect it." I think that people on BYC tend to demonstrate alot of compassion. You all have brought tears to my eyes on many occassions. It is wonderful to think that someone can reach out to the folks on this site and receive support and information.
This dynamic is the internet at its best.
I need to lay off BYC because I am becoming frustrated by & insensitive to others' posts. I read some harsh perspectives here on BYC and I am shocked to find myself responding in a harsh way. I am not a harsh person. Really! Yet, here I come on BYC, getting sassy and making the Mods shut down threads. I have told people to "quit being a big baby." Told people to "grow up" or to "take the high road."
If any of these people were a guest in my home or a coworker, I would not react that way. Yes, I take great offense to people who plot against neighbors or are cruel to sick in-laws or who use their kids against their ex. I think some people do need to grow up, but I know that shaming them or sassing at them is not going to convey any great insight. Stupid doesn't cancel out stupid. I went to sleep last night with a line from a Carrie Underwood song in my head: "next time he'll think before he cheats." So the logic is that vandalism will make a guy a better relational partner? Yikes. That is the logic that some people use in their interactions with family & friends- "I'll just show my MIL how much trouble I can cause!". Brilliant! Then they write about it on BYC. Then I tell them what I think... I judge them... My rudeness is not a help. I think I will just lurk for a bit and enjoy all the cute chickie photos.
Have any of you taken a BYC break? Why?
I began this thread to ask others if they have ever taken a break & why. I also want to explain why I am going to take time off.
This morning, I read a quote from the Dali Lama: "...compassion, the natural capacity of the human heart to feel concern for and connection with another human being,constitutes a basic aspect of our nature shared by all human beings,as well as being the foundation of our happiness. All ethical teachings, whether religious or nonreligious, aim to nurture this innate and precious quality, to develop it and to perfect it." I think that people on BYC tend to demonstrate alot of compassion. You all have brought tears to my eyes on many occassions. It is wonderful to think that someone can reach out to the folks on this site and receive support and information.
I need to lay off BYC because I am becoming frustrated by & insensitive to others' posts. I read some harsh perspectives here on BYC and I am shocked to find myself responding in a harsh way. I am not a harsh person. Really! Yet, here I come on BYC, getting sassy and making the Mods shut down threads. I have told people to "quit being a big baby." Told people to "grow up" or to "take the high road."
Have any of you taken a BYC break? Why?
