help phyco next door.....

[chickbea]

Schizophrenia (noun) and schizophrenic (noun and adj) are the spellings, since someone asked at some point along this thread...

 

[chicken50]

How about the FOP can they help your husband, I am a Police Officer and I cant believe the Chief or Sheriff will go against his own. If the ordinances in the twsp or Borough allow horses and chickens & you comply to those ordinances, well then Boss and Neighbor ITS ON.

Good Luck Brother and Be Safe
Jim

 

[kansas_twister]

thank's jim, the sheriff know's that i know that he messed up by not supporting his own, my husband is terriefied to let me drive him to work when the sheriff is around because i'm just that type of person to tell him how it is. my friends want me to turn all that i have to the k.b.i , i told my father in law that i want to sue and he said that if i did that my husband would for sure lose his job?????....hhhmmmm why i'm not sure....i wont name the dept in the suit only if the sheriff and i come to a agreement on a poisson long over due for my husband , we live in a very small town where thing's can be swept under the carpet like dirt, where reports and investagastions can be changed for a price, some times i miss the big cities where names and faces are a blur and know cares who you are.........
on another note's i grabbed my video cam this afternoon and videod tim from my kitchen window messing with our fences, i also snuck out by the barn to take pic's of his new truck ( yes once again he he has another truck) but i got all that i needed, crawled in to the barn and waited till he left.....(the 3 horses i have left where giving me away) i noticed that he pushed all his hay bales up against our fence line where our back pasture is and the horses where . tim came on our property last year when i was 7 months pregnant and started to harrass me i swiftley kicked him off the property and told him i'd kick his *** if he came back on it, i ended up in the hospital the next day because of it....not sure if that was noted with the dept but was with the hospital.
i know that when my husband goes to work on the coop that tim or tim's dad will drive by slowley and try to figure out what my husband doing......i haven't mowed around the coop in a while, but it bug's the h*** out of them that they can't see what he is doing........

 

[rufus]

Sadly, it has been my experience in life that you can't move away from crazies. It seems like every neighborhood has them. Better to have good fences and a vicious, agressive lawyer.

Rufus

 

[aimee]

That's great that you have video tape of Tim messing with your fence. Just let himself dig himself in deeper.

And if it were me, the next time I was out there working on the coop (or whatever) and him or his dad drove by, I would stop and stand there and wave at them. I'd wave with a big smile on my face like they were my bestfriend.

But I'm not the type to just sit back and let someone do something like this too me. I don't care if the other person has some kind of "sickness" or not. Actually, if it were me, I would mess with this Tim guy until he totally lost him mind and they had to come lock him in a padded room. I would play on him being parinoid and go to a different town and rent a white van (without windows) and just park it by his house. Move it to a different spot everyday. Just little things that don't actually do anything to him, so you don't get in trouble, but just stuff that will really drive him crazy.

 

[MayberrySaint]

Maybe we'll see you all on Judge Judy someday...

 

[kansas_twister]

lol....no on judge judy you can only sue up to $5000.00 (i belive) i'm going for the big bucks, to the point where they have to sell off farm ground in order to servive and leave other farmers that they have harrassed alone.
i let my husband watch the vid of tim (my husband think's it was tim's friend) last night but say that i can't do any thing with it because i still have my borders 1 horse here, my border also works for the sheriff dept and will ask her.

 

[chickbea]

I'm curious as to how this whole thing started with Tim. Did you ever have a good relationship with him? Did you live there first, or did he? Have you ever tried the killing him with kindness route? He may be paranoid, but he may also be labile, in which case you can use that to persuade him to your way of seeing things.
Coming from a tiny town shouldn't matter - I live in a miniscule town, and you can't turn around withoout everyone knowing what you are up to, who is involved, etc., etc. NOTHING gets swept under the rug around here! We beat every subject within an inch of its life!
As for stacking his hay right on the other side of your horses' fence - can they reach it? It sounds llike free food to me!

 

[Alleyoops25]

I am going to tell you some thing really personal. I am going to do this risking judgement by everyone on this forum. But i think it is nessary so that you know that others have dealt with people like this before, and that someone esle has made it through it alive. When I was 16 I was young and stupid. My dad had a brain anerysm, and almost died. He lived through brian surgery and well the damage that was done left him like toddler. The only person in my family that he could say their name was me, and my mom. He couldnt speak, he couldnt walk, and he peed and had bm's alover the place. this happend in the middle of a school year. My world was torn apart. I had to leave my small town podunk school and go to a school in Denver. After we were able to come home my grades had suffered, and the school I returned to wouldnt accept any of the credits I had managed to achieve while in Denver. My dad was having brian seizures, and the meds they put him on made him hullicinate. He thoughthe was in vietnam, and every one was trying tokill him. He brke a nurses arm. Due to this, I went nuts also. I rebelled and started dating a guy the fits the bill for Tim. And I got pregnant. As I got closer tomy due date he left his job tomake sure that he would be there when the baby was born. When I passed my due date without having the baby, he beat me. I was two weeks past my due date before I went into labor. I have pictures of me holding my new born duaghter with black eyes. I was stupid becuase I tried to stay with him after I had her. "to be a family" Well he would be lovig one minute, and try to kill us the next.. I smartend up when he loaded a gun with one bullet and started pulling the trigger. With each pull of the trigger he would point it at his head , then my head , and then my duaghters. A nieghbor heard my screams and broke through the door and pulled him to the ground and the shot with the bullet init went through the wall right passed might three day old infant. If itwerent for that neighbor he would have killed her. What brought this on was I had to leave the house to takwe our duaghter to a doctors appointment. When we got back he was waiting with a gun in hand. He was arrested and released the next day because his mother bailed him out. I had no clue that he had gotten out. And I moving back to parents was taking a walk with my best friend . He almost ran us over. And after he missed us the first try he was coming back again to try the same thing. My brother was out side and seen this happening, got a gun and shot through his truck window. This startled him enough that he left and went to his mothers house. The cops didn't areest him because his family, told them that he was with them all day. and That we were lying about the window, and told them that it had been out of the pickup for a long time. I got a emergency restraining order and would leave the house. He Violated it 11 times. each time he got bailed out by his family. The last time he violated it was by calling me from jail after he was arrested right out side our house while he was trying to break in. And he had a knife on him that was intended to murder us. He was sentence to 10 years in jail, but was released AFTER 2. I had managed to finish school and was working when this happend. And I had to go through the night mare agian when the court allowed him suprvised visition with my duaghter. HE didnt us the visitation much when he wasnt permitted to come to get Her and he could only see her with a policeman babysitting him. He moved to Arizona and married another woman and had a little boy. He did the same to her to. I was married to my husband by this time. And we figured out he was in jail agian for attempted murder on his wife and son. So we got adoption papers and sent them to him. Luckly he was in a giving mood becuase he signed the papers giving my husband permission to adopt my duaghter. Thankfully he is still behind bars today. And it is a miracle that my duaghter and I are still alive today. Like I said it was a very persoanal story that I dont like telling. But I felt that you needed to know that if you fight hard and long enough you will win. You don't have do really do anything to set someone like this off. You merley have to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. they tend to try to seek out victims and do every thing they can to destory the life. And they can become obessed with you. I fear for you and your family, i really do. And I dont blame you one bit for selling your horses. If he was obcessing over them , he eventually might have killed them. I hope that you will get this solved soon. And if I were you I would keep a gun close. He is so unpredictable and you need all the protection you can get. I still live in fear with what my psycho has done, I get goosebumps when I see a truck like his. Or a person that looks like him. It hard for people to understand situations like this when they havent ever dealt with them. I am sure you guys have done nothing wrong to desevre the problems you are going through. And these people are masters at making people believe that you are the problem. My psychos wife was married to him for three years before he turned on her. And until that time she thought that I was the evil one. She had a parrot and in one of his rages he threw the poor bird into a fire. And hit his 2yr. son so hard the kid got knocked out. I didnt think the guy was bad either. HE was my protector, until I got pregnant. Anyway I have rambled on now for to long, and I have left my self open for ridicule. You guys are doing good, keep with and give anymore. Stand ready for a fight, I am afriad that your battle is just begining. Tim sounds very mentally unstable. Stick to your restraining order, if he gives the tinyest violation call the cops on him. Remeber that if your county courts arent holding to the laws you can appeal to a higher court. GEt a tape recorder attached to your phone so that if he starts calling and harrassing you you will have all the evindence you need to can him. This worked for for me. Sometimes they will block their number to cover the evidence. In colorado it is legal for this to be done on the grounds that one of the parties know they are being recorded. Pad lock all of your gates to the horse corral, and chicken coops. Lock your dor at night and keep you kids close. And stand guard for the possibility that anything can and will happen. I wish you all the luck in the world. And you will be in my prayers.

 

[SpottedCrow]

Oh My Goddess, Alley...
I'm proud that you got away...and that your daughter and you are in a safe loving environment.
The best psycho/sociopaths are the most normal looking people until something, anything sets them off and then...well, I don't need to say more.
How did your dad make out? My aunt had 2 strokes in September and she has memories problems and paranoia.