This has been bothering me for a long time, so it's nothing new. But I can't take it anymore and I need some suggestions on how to handle this, because I am at a loss. Here are some of the things she does: 1) Mis-represents me and my mother by making outrageous claims such as racial slurs, elitist remarks and here is something she said to give you an idea. At a restaurant she told a waitress that I was only interested in dating guys that had lots of $$$$!!---that is BY FAR the furthest thing from the truth! Another thing she said is that she doesn't like shopping at Wal-Mart because it's full of scum bags! We shop there all the time. 2) She speaks of my friends/acquaintances (that she doesn't know) incorrectly and usually in a way that would portray them to be a bad person or looks as if I portray them to be a bad person. 3) She reveals personal things about our lives that we'd really like to not have revealed. As in, we are her favorite subject to talk about, to anyone, no joke. Example: One time my mother went to cash a check at the bank and the teller says "Oh, I heard you had to put your horse down!" My mother was very devastated by the loss of her horse and this statement from the teller really upset her. 4) My grandmother brags about us and all of our accomplishments to the point that it makes us look like superior elitists, to the point where people can't stand us and don't like us. We are not elitists. We do community service, a lot benefits for those in need, rescue animals (regardless of species ) all out of pocket, heck I even wear garage sale clothes! Most of my shoes have holes in them, believe me, I am not thinking I'm superior! 5) Constantly comments about our clothes to the point we have become self-concious and uncomfortable--especially in public. 6) Always helping my conversations along. I am very quiet, soft-spoken and terrible at small talk. So when I do speak, it is with purpose and direction and has a point that I wish to get across---my grandmother will interupt me and drown me out, taking over the consversation and fills it with ridiculous false-guided statements. 7) Condescending towards us and others--she told me that my job (working for a landscape business) wasn't a "real" job. I could go on, but I realize this is a bit long. To rap it up she is a like a female Archie Bunker to the 5th power. I've tried speaking to her nicely and asking her to please stop and she becomes defensive, nasty and combative and says that I'm just picking on her and being critical of her. Any help from the BYC crowd on how to handle this?