Ah ha!!!!! The conflict avoider. Let me tell you how I got over it. I realized that I was very unconfortable when I needed to confront somebody because I needed to let them go or they were getting on my nerves, or they were putting me in danger, or, well you get idea. Then I realized that the whole time I spent not dealing with the situation I would remain unconfortable. Then I realized that if I just said what needed to be said, then the uncomfortable would only last for those few moments it took me to tell the person/persons. So, I could wait and be uncomfortable for a long time, or I could get it over and only feel uncomfortable for a few moments and then the person who needed to feel uncomfortable would be doing so and I could get about my business
I know that probably that did not make since. If for some reason it did, I hope it helps
Mjd