how to handle this?

[nonseq]

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Depends on where you are. Emotional neglect/abuse - while against the laws of most states - is very difficult to prove. When I did home visits I would occasionally walk into some very rough situations and conditions. These were rural counties. Things that would have been totally unacceptable in the suburbs were not remarked upon at all in this area. Getting CYS to even investigate was a chore. Even our liaison wouldn't move his ass on such things as kids living in a room with a foot-deep layer of trash and no sheets on the bed.

One city I worked in had a judge who didn't believe in child sexual abuse. You could kiss your case good-bye if you wound up in his court room.

And I know my little anecdotes are OT. Illustrative purposes. HA

The OP's best bet is to get the cops involved. And don't let them be lazy. The cops should report this to CYS. If I were the OP, I'd call just to make sure CYS heard about it. If the kid is acting out at home, he's probably a handful at school. IME the school will have a lot more oomph in getting something done about the kid than you will. And I am digressing again. Sorry.

 

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That's what I worked at. If the kid stomped to death a turkey or took out after his mom with a knife. I was the one who got his case. I guess that was my niche. My agency was contracted with the state to provide services to at-risk children and youth. I did behavior mods.

And I am one of the few people who ever had a kid released from services b/c he got better. Go me.

 

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That's what I worked at. If the kid stomped to death a turkey or took out after his mom with a knife. I was the one who got his case. I guess that was my niche. My agency was contracted with the state to provide services to at-risk children and youth. I did behavior mods.

And I am one of the few people who ever had a kid released from services b/c he got better. Go me.

And i'm a therapeutic foster parent for those High-risk kids..

 

[nonseq]

Wanna talk shop?

I don't work in the field anymore. I tend to become frustrated with my agency and my co-workers at some point. People who bill and bill and bill yet their clients never improve bug the crap out of me. Then I need to take a break for awhile. But I still think and wonder about some of my clients.

 

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OOh i hear ya! I feel the same way... its harder for me to quit though, cause i have the kids actually living with me...
But i see so many just pushed through the system and not really getting the right help that they need.... frustrating!

 

[nonseq]

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OOh i hear ya! I feel the same way... its harder for me to quit though, cause i have the kids actually living with me...
But i see so many just pushed through the system and not really getting the right help that they need.... frustrating!

Exactly.

Sometimes it seems as if the money is more important to the agency than the client. And sometimes I wonder why some folks get into the field if they don't like kids or parents or want to make an effort.

 

[speakup4kids]

I'm on the other end of the CPS story... I work in a school and am required by law to report suspected child abuse. Our CPS is so absolutely awesome out here (NOT) that in both of the two cases I reported over the last several years they told the parents who filed the report. Which of course led to threats, stalking, etc... fun, fun, fun. Not to mention in one of the cases, there was never even a home visit... they called on the flippin phone!

My suggestion to report the child to CPS is not only because something may very well be going on but also because there needs to be some written documentation of this incident just in case the neighbor decides to go crazy and start making weird things up. Protect yourself at the very least.

 

[PoultryPedia]

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EXTREMELY GOOD POINTS above!

To help with landlord discussions, there is helpful info on "Nuisance Abatement: Civil Suits a Powerful Tool for Law Enforcement" at http://www.oag.state.tx.us/alerts/alerts_view.Php?id=105&type=3\\
'...Chapter 125 allows for suits to abate “public nuisances”...'
Gang activity is cited as an example of a public nuisance, and I believe other types of criminal activity would fall in this category as well.
If later needed by landlord, there is an eviction form at http://www.mctx.org/jp3/PETITIONforEviction.pdf