Human failure = losses (long)

[chicken_boy_Kurt]

Wow that is horrible. You should tell her what BYC (all of BYC

) thinks of her. Why would someone do that?

 

[Scrambled Egg]

Em, with all you have been through with your boy I can't imagine why you had to endure this too...I am sooo very sorry this happened...and sooooooo want to jap slap that stupid woman.....

 

[tiffanyh]

UGH! I am so sorry you are having to deal with all this! I cant even imagine what she was thinking!!!!!! I can see people who dont have chickens thinking that "oh, they can go a day or so and be fine", but to leave a dog! Most people realize dogs are everyday care.


Very thick headed. My guess is her defensive behavior is out of embarassment.

 

[rooster-red]

So she got free passes to a carnival, and just HAD to go 3 nights. OK, I can live with that, I'd want to go too, but... why didn't she go care for the animals sometime in the day BEFORE going to the carnival?

 

[mangled]

Rooster Red, I'd also be like - Yeehaw! Free carnival passes! But - let's stop up at Em's at make sure her animals are fed and watered.

Her husband and oldest boy made an appearance around 8:30 this evening and we discussed the whole bloody situation. Her oldest boy is 15, and he actually called his Mom a loser. Unfortunately, it seems the side of her I've seen in the non-profit is not her true side, or it's a side she rarely shows.

I told her husband I was out about $250 in time, feed and lost animals. I don't even know if that's a reasonable amount, but he asked me what my financial losses were, and that's the number that popped into my head.

He said he would work it out with us, but it would have to be worked into their budget, as they've all ready putting out over $300 on the kitten. I had no idea of the total cost, but she's in over the weekend, and that can't be cheap.

The husband actually wanted to see the pictures of the chicks. I showed him and he was even more angry. He said he was going to make her come up and apologize, and I told him not to bother. Her previous actions showed her true feelings, and I don't need any butt kissing to make me feel better. I actually think it would make her feel better, and that's why I'm not allowing it. Is that harsh?

Anyway, the vet said the kitten had really perked up, and she was actually drinking and eating some on her own, so she'll most likely make a full recovery.

Em

 

[BeckyBird]

Em, I am so so sorry for everything that has happened. Please know that we all hope you can try to feel better, and I'll be praying for you, that's for sure! Nothing can bring your babies back, but at least you have friends here who understand.

 

[hlyndes]

I admire your patience with this family and am glad the other members are trying to do what they can to right all of her many wrongs. I wish strength to your family and healing for your son!

 

[okiemommy]

Her previous actions showed her true feelings, and I don't need any butt kissing to make me feel better. I actually think it would make her feel better, and that's why I'm not allowing it. Is that harsh?

Absolutely not! It's not harsh. She should only apologize if she is really sorry. And I would imagine that she still hasn't felt the consequences of her actions yet. She won't truly apologize until she does accept the weight of her choices and how they deeply affected you. She may not be liking the way people are reacting to her, but that in itself won't make for a genuine apolpogy. Anything before that, is just an attempt to smooth things over on the surface to get out of her being responsible for her actions. And she may not apologize sincerely at all. Especially if she chooses not to face the situation and how it affected your family.​

 

[amazondoc]

I gotta say I'm very impressed with the way the husband is handling this. This must be an ongoing problem with the wife. I'm wondering if she might be an alcoholic; in any case, it seems obvious that she has some sort of serious chronic problem.

 

[CarlaRiggs]

I'm with Amazndoc.... it sounds as if this woman is having problems. Alcoholism may be one, beginnings of dementia or worse. It's awful to think that her son thinks of his mom as a 'loser'. Really a sad situation all the way around.
This will hurt the husband (and you, obviously) in the pocketbook. I'm not sure the wife will be able to admit her mistake and feel apologetic.

So good luck with it all. I'm so sorry this had to happen.

I'm happy to hear that your son is doing better, though. So glad the drs. have found the problem and steps are being taken to get things right. I'll remember him in my prayers and thoughts. Please do let us know how the surgery goes.

God bless you all.

Carla