husbands sister needs to go rant

[Wisher1000]

Start keeping your peanut butter in your closet, let them use what is in the pantry. I would suggest SIL goes to live with the FB poster....

 

[DuckLady]

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And send hubby with her, since he doesn't see a problem with living like his sister does.
He will soon be back alone.

 

[NYboy]

Been there!! one word VALIUM it helps!

 

[stoopid]

is that how you dealt with muddy feet?

 

[sourland]

If it was me, they would leave and my spouse along with them.

 

[TinyChickenLady]

Yup if my hubby acted like that, I would become a single woman in a heart beat. I know it's harsh but if a married couple can't agree on how to keep their home, then how in the world will they be able to live together?

 

[ReikiStar]

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X's 2! Your DH clearly has issues with standing up to his family. If he's going to take their side, then he should go be with them in their new soon-to-be-trashed trailer/tent city/5-wheel paradise.

Hoping he grows the heck up and protects the family HE built, not the one his family didn't know how to raise.

 

[goobhen]

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See, I knew there was a reason they had to move. They yell at you cause they can. My DH didn't stand up for me, it almost broke us up. He knew he was wrong and he did everything to make it better AFTER the fact, but it took time and lots of hard work & forgiveness.

Hopefully your DH will see the light before it is too late!

 

[mhwc56]

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I sort of have to agree with Orchid to some extent..Your DH probably feels like he's stuck in the middle since it's between his sister and his wife BUT he needs to be supporting YOU. Maybe,if he has to deal with them without you there,then he will realize that he needs to grow a spine and back you up ...?
It wasn't quite the same situation that i dealt with but my DH wouldn't stick up for me or the kids against his mother who came to "visit for a week"... and stayed for 2 months .She constantly criticized,accused and said extremely cruel things to our young children I finally packed us up and walked out ..... his mother left a few days later like her loving son requested of her.
It's not easy for ANY 2 women with their own lifestyle and habits to get along together in the same house but when 1 disrespects the home of the other...THAT's a WAR waiting to happen.
i wouldn't shout,or call names or threaten.First i would CALMLY say to DH ...I understand that you probably feel like you are stuck in the middle here BUT this REALLY,SERIOUSLY is NOT WORKING.We need to come to an agreement about them leaving OR becoming respectful in this home.And YOU need to be the one to speak to them and not back down .
IF that doesn't work then i would let him know that you CANNOT live like this and go"visit "your family/friends for an undetermined period of time.Leave HIM to deal with his sister ,etc for awhile. More than likely,he'll discover that without you there it's not so much fun having his sister there trashing his home and home life.
I hope that you guys can get it all straightened out without anymore undue stress..we'll keep you in our prayers.

 

[mommyofthreewithchicks]

I hear you, my situation was night and day from yours.... Yet the same. Don't feel guilty for your feelings! Your house YOUR rules, that being said hubby needs to stand behind you!

My situation, we took in three siblings during their teen years and were parents to siblings. Hubby felt in the middle and the need to "protect" them from me and it took many years for him to figure out it wasn't them vs me it was trying to figure out what was best for everyone. We seriously looked at our relationship and thought about separating because of the conflict in our home. Please sit down with hubby and figure out how to have a peaceful home (from what little I know sounds like the house guests have to go).


I hope things work out soon!