'That's my husband there with his hand on the halter'. It might be a good idea if he clipped a lead shank to the halter, and held onto that instead - without looping the lead shank around his hand. Not using a lead shank is the way many people get hurt around horses -- others get hurt by looping it around their hand.
No one is trying to 'make you feel bad'. They're trying to keep you and yours, and the animal, safe and healthy.
Small children easily lose their balance on a horse bareback, and even the quietest horse can just lift its leg to kick at a fly and nail a kid.
Kids do get hurt around horses. It does happen. In my experience, it happens a lot. In fact, statistically, being around horses is one of the most dangerous recreational activities there is. I don't think that's because it HAS to be dangerous. I think it's because people either don't know what can happen, or are told, but feel they're immune.
http://www.trot.org/forum/showthread.php?t=4257
It's good to read about how to be safe around horses. There is nothing wrong with finding out about that.
re 'coggins tests are worthless'...maybe some people think that, but the fact is, having a positive coggins horse on your property, or even not having a coggins test for a horse, can land you in a lot of difficulty.