I am happy and sad

[Boyd]

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after the 3rd time they resuscitated my son Kev I said I'd never have another child in blood. It took 5 years before I wasn't afraid to try. Now I'm in my 30's as well as my wife. They almost killed her and the baby last time... and any more may kill them both. I've lost one already, with 2 surviving. I honestly don't know if I am strong enough to risk it. I love my family too much, that to loose any one of them would risk loosing myself

 

[ChooksChick]

Boyd, for the love of all that's holy and your own sanity (not to mention CYA therapy) insist that they pay for a second opinion at a doctor of your choosing. For that matter, you can do it without their involvement.

I've heard of amazing things working when docs insisted they couldn't, and I am certain the body can defy Western Medicine if given a chance. Many women have cerclage to prevent pre-term loss, and I'm sure you could explore other possibilities.

It's important to have every conversation documented, please start carrying a digital recorder with you-the medical field is very good at losing documentation and denying what was said or done- I know multiple nurses who were canned for telling the truth.

Edited because I have fat fingers today.

 

[Dar]

you have every right to be up set.... BUT... did they say how far she may be able to carry.... everything is still in shambles inside....

My friend had 1/2 her cervix removed due to cancer. they said she will never have another child (she had 3 already) they were scheduling a hysterectomy, and in the pre op blood work low and behold she was pregnant.... they stitched the cervix and she was ordered on bed rest. 32 weeks pregnant they un-stitched the cervix and she now has a happy 4 year old

there may be a glimmer of hope!

 

[crazy goose lover]

Sorry about what you and your wife have been through. Don't let anger rob you of enjoying your wife and newborn. If this is your last... give it all the love you have.

 

[Boyd]

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trust me, I cherish my wife and kids, but so close to loosing her I am told I may loose out on any more

Me and the wife are already involved with the foster care/adoption processes but I don't want her to feel cheated in the end I guess. Think it bugs me more than her.

 

[jerseygirl1]

Wow, what good people you are
ANd you have every right ot be angry, I am so sorry

 

[Kansaseq]

Boyd, I am so sorry.

 

[chicken_china_mom]

Of course you have every right to be mad, I'd be furious myself if it were me in yours or Kelly's place. I watched residents nearly kill my grandmother, and they DID kill my friend's newborn, and it left me with a poor opinion of teaching hospitals. I won't go to them, I just don't trust residents. I'm sorry that this happened to you and Kelly. But you know, God does work in mysterious ways. You'd be surprised at the plans He has for you and your family. I say give Kelly's body plenty of time to heal, and then consult another doctor, at ANOTHER hospital or clinic. I've had several friends lost part of their cervix to cancer, and they went on to have healthy babies. One of them had 3 healthy kids last time I saw her! A hole in the cervix? That will heal. I would think that she might require her cervix to be sewn shut if you did decide to have another child. But really, I would get a second, and maybe even a third opinion before I took the word of that doctor. IF, and yes, it's a big IF, it's still a no, there is always the option of surrogacy. It's just a thought. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.

 

[Sillystunt]

my sister had hers ripp and she started to bleed out! that was my first nephew Jimmy. They told her she would never have anymore kids. Two years later she gave birth to a beautiful boy named marcus. Sometimes they are wrong and they really can't say. I understand your anger cause i would have flipped out!!!

I have alot of experience with preemies. My son brody at 3lbs 15oz and wiley 17 moths later at 2lbs 7 oz. I know how scary it is but they are strong lil buggers!! Focus on your son and cheerish his presence.

i also agree about the second opinion with another doctor NOT in that hospital. I was in full labor for 3 days............every 5 mins and drugs were not working. The resident idiot wouldn't make the call! She was so stupid she didnt see on my chart that 80% of my cervix is scar tissue. UMMMMMMM DUH!!!!
We named her Mc Stupid

Don't give up on HOPE my friend!!!!

xoxoxo,
Heather

 

[Damummis]

Boyd buddy,
My heart goes out to you. Ever wonder why a Doctor's office is called his practice. Hmmm. I think there are miracles every day. Don't loose hope.