i am not sure if this a rant or not....

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Deb I used to practically be your neighbor until 2 years ago. Lived in Victorville, did most of my shopping in AV (the people in AV are nicer than in Vic.). It's not hard for a 17 or 19 year old to get a job in CA. They just have to have the proper motivation to hit the pavement and seriously look. You have alot of businesses there and Victorville has a ton more. There is no reason the 19 year old shouldn't have a job at this point. I do agree with who posted at 18 it's either college, military, or a job and pay rent. I don't however feel the same for the 17 year old if he's still in high school. I don't know if they raised the graduation requirements there but they did in TX. The college prep now wants 3 years foreign language, and I think 4 years of math, english language, and science. Until my kids graduate their job is school.

I do agree I wouldn't renew the cell contract. In fact my 15 year old has gripped till the cows come how for a cell. Sorry honey I can't afford another cell bill. So when she goes out at night I let her use mine because I want her to be able to contact me whenever she needs to. She has her friends numbers in my phone and I consider that a good thing. Showing her the bills will not be far away tho.
 
I feel your pain, Miss Prissy. Last winter I was needing some help around the yard getting weed cloth and mulch down. I was having to put in long weeknights and every weekend at work and just ran out of time. When I approached some of my college age students, they turned up their snotty little noses. This is the same crowd that whines and complains that they have no cash. I was offering $10 an hour just to shovel mulch! They indicated that $10 an hour wasn't enough money to do that kind of work. Brats! I quit feeling sorry for them at that point. Let them eat Ramen noodles!

I would LOVE to have a general handyman that could help with the repairs I can't do by myself. Anybody know of someone in middle Tennessee?
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PC, that's a really good list. Your boy will be a real, responsible man -- and an educated, well-rounded man -- one day.
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He'll remember it and love you for the self-discipline you gave him (and it's awesome, too, that you do some of the stuff with him...boys need time to bond with Dad).

Way to go!
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Kids are kids. It's tough times for everybody. Fortunately my daughter is in college. My 17 year old still eats a lot but he was able to get a job at the pizzaria in town. It is the only place that hires under 21. He works about 3 hrs 5 days a week and gets a free personal pizza or calzone . He keeps straight A's and is starting college next fall.

He's not much help around the house. Takes he trash to the curb on Thursday and watches the kids about once a month. But he keeps his grades up and stays out of trouble.

I'm amazed at how much food has gone up over the past 2 years. We shop at Sams. I can't even begin to fathom how people shop at regular grocery stores. The only time anything is reasonable at Safeway is during sales. Then there's hay and grain. My wages sure haven't gone up that fast. I'd like to know where they get inflation figures from. Obviously some hiding going on,
 
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Thanks CL. I hope and pray you are right. Being a parent is not easy.
Heck, I feel like a big kid still. Half the things I do with him is in response
to the mistakes my parents made or I made at younger ages.

I treat him like a little man but make a lot of mistakes. He goes crazy
like an 8 year old will do and this weekend we had a blizzard and he
has been at my Mom's house being coddled and spoiled. Grandma's...


When I read threads like this I get frustrated. Once a kid is in their teens
they are hard to change. I also find that most guys don't even begin to
grow up until 30 these days. My Dad was a police officer by the time he
was 22. At 22 I was an idiot with no direction or responsibility. We are
coddling the heck out of todays kids and the media and academia are
telling us we should do it.

I refuse to let my son repeat my mistakes but I also realize he will
need to make some mistakes in order to grow as a person.
 
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Thanks CL. I hope and pray you are right. Being a parent is not easy.
Heck, I feel like a big kid still. Half the things I do with him is in response
to the mistakes my parents made or I made at younger ages.

I treat him like a little man but make a lot of mistakes. He goes crazy
like an 8 year old will do and this weekend we had a blizzard and he
has been at my Mom's house being coddled and spoiled. Grandma's...


When I read threads like this I get frustrated. Once a kid is in their teens
they are hard to change. I also find that most guys don't even begin to
grow up until 30 these days. My Dad was a police officer by the time he
was 22. At 22 I was an idiot with no direction or responsibility. We are
coddling the heck out of todays kids and the media and academia are
telling us we should do it.

I refuse to let my son repeat my mistakes but I also realize he will
need to make some mistakes in order to grow as a person.

You are a wise and compendable parent PC......Bravo!!
 
Girl! i feel your pain! I sucks in this house too!

My hubbie (who is wonderful) Has Gastroparesis! Which means his stomach does not move to digest food properly! He gets Botox injected into the muscle in the bottom of his stomach every 3-4 months to keep it open for food to pass! He constantly throws up! Cannot work due to this obvously! He had his own lawncare company which now had widdled away!
Tryed too get him on SSI but he was denied! HMMM lets see!
He is in the hospital at least once a month! He is a type 1 Diabetic! Monthly drug copays are $250 and dont get me started on the doc and hospital bills!
I wish i had $$ for an attorney but it is not possible!

Keep your head up honey! It will get better! Tell your son to look on Craigslist for odd jobs their are tons here! Good luck! if you need to rant PM me !
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Miss Prissy - you don't offend me, I offend myself for letting it go on this long!!

Chicken Lady - I have been trying and threatening and pleading for that kid to get into school. My mother helped with this one. She has told him she is taking away the laptop she bought him (over my many protests) if she isn't registered by the end of next week. He wants to go school, just a very specialized one at $35k per year. I can't pay for that!

Back yard buddy - the 19 year can certainly get a job, though there are very few available here. The 17 year old is still in high school....

What chaps my hide is things like this: 17 year takes out 2 corn dogs and nukes them. The side split open so he threw them away!!!!!!!!!! WHAT??????? I got so mad at him.

Ken and had a heart to heart yesterday. None of the kids get squat. If they want something they can find a way to pay for it on their own. Room and board is payment for chores, not money or CD's, etc. Neither one of them are happy about it. My son's solution (19 year old) is go to his friends houses until they tire of him. I probably won't see him again for three weeks.
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The biggest problem with the 19 year old? Everyone loves him to pieces. He never complains about home, just comes over one day and then is still there a week later and they don't care. Every time I run into them they all tell me what a wonderful kid he is!!!! TAKE HIM THEN!!!
 
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Really? wow. I was working when I was 14. Sure my folk had to sign off on it, and it was only bagging groceries. But it was still money.
And when I was sophmore in HS you HAD to get a job, in your chosen major for the summer work program. *Agricultural HS* Not that I did since by that time I had been working for a dry cleaners and was making GOOD money. I cant imagine how half the places around here would do it if they couldnt hire anyone younger than 18.
The donut stores, the grocery stores,some of the retail clothing stores.

Wow. Just wow!
 
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Really? wow. I was working when I was 14. Sure my folk had to sign off on it, and it was only bagging groceries. But it was still money.
And when I was sophmore in HS you HAD to get a job, in your chosen major for the summer work program. *Agricultural HS* Not that I did since by that time I had been working for a dry cleaners and was making GOOD money. I cant imagine how half the places around here would do it if they couldnt hire anyone younger than 18.
The donut stores, the grocery stores,some of the retail clothing stores.

Wow. Just wow!

I first ran into the issue with my son when he was 16 looking for a job. At the time I didn't believe him. Now everyone I know who has teens, they can't get a job, AT ALL. I am sure it is specific to the area here, but I don't get it either. With the economy the way it is I guess businesses would rather hire someone with a family than a kid.​
 

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