I am over weight and having a melt down :'(

[aran]

and one other thing most important to any weight loss plan..the way to sustained weight loss *( and incidently to decreasing your odds of type 2 diabetes and maximizing your bone density and lowering cholesterol etc) is to increase your core lean body mass..in other words more muscle less fat. This is true for ADULTS...silkie mate there is more than enough time in the future for worrying bout this...you are young...enjoy yourself and stop worrying bout this stuff...plenty of time for that when you are old like us!

 

[nccountrygirl]

aran you said a mouth full, listen to us old farts, we know it all

 

[aran]

sheesh i have to be more careful about who i am giving out my diet plan to...this is the diet I follow each summer, i ride my bike to and from work ( 15 miles each way) and lift weights at least 3-4 times/week and have done for the last 8-9 years. Its not for everybody but it sure works. Problem is it can become obsessive VERY quickly and that is a problem a young girl or woman just doesnt need. Silkie...you know back in victorian times skinny woman were shunned as ugly? Back then it was recognised that curves on a lady are what makes her feminine. Just food for thought is all.

 

[cookinmom]

And, girl, don't knock that bootie! There are millions of flat-butted women out there who would give (as someone said earlier) their favorite chicken to have what you have. Just think of all the money you will save not having to buy special jeans to make it look like you got something back there! Old ladies even buy body shapers with built in padding to look like they have a butt. People even have silicon butt implants trying to have what you got!

 

[Frozen Feathers]

Guys like curves, they don't like seeing ribs and your hip bones sticking out...when your 30 and your dad finally lets you date

...you'll appreciate having hips and a booty.

 

[buckbeak]

Some people are big. Some are small. We as a society should be more accepting of that. I think weight is a lot like money- it comes & goes. I think it is important not to diet when you are still growing.

 

[Fancy Feather Poultry]

Well, it looks like im not buying any work out movies til tommrow, we took to long getting some thing to eat

. We got Subway and man was it good I got and italin sub with whole wheat bread I found whole wheat to taste better then white Yucky

 

[CarriBrown]

I'll put my 2 cents in here since I still feel like I'm 20...

The best thing you can do for yourself is to STOP looking at those magazines until you're ready to accept the way you are. Sure, we want and need to stay healthy, but the fact of the matter is that you were made this way and that is that.
Right now, the stick figure may seem appealing to you, but ask any man (NOT BOY) out there and they will say that they like a woman with a butt and hips.
If you start with healthy habits now, it will be so easy to keep them going throughout your life.
DON'T count calories like a mad woman, weigh yourself, or do any of that. Make healthy choices and you will just naturally eat within your means. Easy ways to cut calories- water instead of soda, wheat instead of white bread, fruit instead of candy, eating 6 times a day instead of big meals, eating a handful of something (like dry roasted peanuts without salt) and NOT half the container, eating at home instead of out, having a piece of chocolate instead of a whole Snickers bar. It's hard at first, trust me. But you will start to crave those good foods.
Remember that you're eating this way not to be skinny, but to be HEALTHY! Notice how much better your clothes look rather than staring at a scale. Go for a walk instead of watching TV. And most of all, accept and love yourself because confidence will make anyone look their best.

 

[lacyloo]

silkie u are not fat , but if u think u are then, walk alot , exersize alot, eat healther, and dont git on the scale intill like when u first wake up and pee, ,,, im 13 and 90 bls the doctor say i need to gane some i think its cause im alway on the go and i only eat one or 2 meals aday cause for some reason im like never hungry

 

[Rafter 7 Paint Horses]

Silkie

You are young & growing. Your body is going through a lot of changes right now. And I'm sure you are under a lot of stress also. Please don't diet. Do more active things, get outside more, even just walking around your property will help.
Try to eat healthier, it will help your Dad too. If you do eat junk food, just eat smaller than usual portions of it. That way you don't feel "deprived" of anything. (half a candy bar instead of the whole thing)

I don't think you need to lose weight, you just need to "tone up" a little as your body changes. Exercise is the only way to tone your body as far as I know. Is there any exercise shows on TV where you live? They come on early in the morning here. Check the TV listings & tape one of these shows for you to watch & exercise with when you get home from school.

You might try to get your Dad involved with you. It will help him with his grief & you with yours. It will bond the 2 of you also. Ask him to help you get fit, it might just be the thing to get both of you through the tough times.

I'm sorry for your loss, & hope you get some ideas from here to help you.

Jean