I cannot believe what my neighbor did today.....

[seismic wonder2]

7' solid wood fences make GREAT neighbors.
Let the ol bat rant all she wants behind the fence.

I would agree with Mahonri if she were a NORMAL person that was just being a putz.

But I think this lady has REAL mental defects, paranoia, dementia, and other multisylabic maladies and should be locked up.

I don't have kids, but if I did, and some loony toone snatched up my kids, There'd be a new tomato patch in her back yard about 6' long and 3'wide.......

 

[SterlingAcres]

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Man you crack me up!

 

[Jennyhaschicks]

Oh my Pearl! I didn't read the other responses, but if someone grabbed my kid you bet your belt I would be calling the police on her. I think I would have to hold myself back from grabbing her and shaking her, but that is not the way to handle it.

Sounds like she may either be unhappy about life or she has some mental disabilities that are not being taken care of.
Please keep the kids away from her. She sounds like she could snap anyway. I'm sorry that your kids and the other's can't be carefree kids and have the child hood that everyone is entitled to.
Jeepers. keep us updated. Be safe!

 

[seismic wonder2]

Thanks, shellie
When I wake up every day I only ask for one smile. Just one smile a day makes things better.

I tried asking for permission to kill one stupid person a day, but that didn't pan out. Just one....that's all I ask...really.....

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

cookies,, yeah...cookies will do it.

Heaven help the person that EVER lays a hand on my child.

I agree with talking to the kids. And telling them to just stay away from her. I warn my daughter about houses/people that she needs to stay away from. To keep her safe and me out of jail
It stinks that she is ruining their summer vacation. And that her family doesnt see an issue is just scary.

 

[purplebaby]

this is serious, i feel so bad for u.

if i were closer i would come over and help! she really needs a 72 hr eval. it is very possible the strokes have damaged her based on what u said she was like b4. see if there is an agency that deals with elder abuse and neglect near u. your husband contacting her kids and them doing nothing maybe could get her some sort of services which she desperately needs. think act behave "very concerned friend", you are so worried about her etc... cry if u have to.

walmart carries several kinds of cheap video camera. it will work well enough to document it. my kids actually have one that is a camera/video. yours could take it with them to "tape their bike riding " or "NATURE" then if wacko woman came near just tape what she does, and says. they also have ones that mount to a tree or house that u can wire/ wireless to tape to vcr or computer. hmmm can u tell i was stalked by my ex? document everything u can even if it is just in email form sent to someone u trust, as then it is timed and dated, then save to a file on your email server. that will help in long run if there is a more serious problem. the courts like documented things even if they are not serious enough to call police over. documenting can go a long way just in case.

as far as the neighborhood children go, they should be told that strokes can do this, it is not her fault, she is not person she was.... BUT she is dang lucky it wasnt my oldest (15) as she would probably hit the woman, we are still recovering from the abuse from my ex/their dad

and sometimes they still dont think first.

 

[arlee453]

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I really think this just underscores the point that her problems might be organic in nature - ie, her strokes have changed her personality, or she is suffering from alzheimers or similar type problem. One of the classic signs of certain dementia related illnesses is complete personality change accompanied by beligerence and paranoia.

If this is the case, she won't get better, she will continue to get worse and worse and may even act more aggressively.

I think you should make the report to social services. If her adult children refuse or just don't see what's happening, which they probably don't because A) they don't live with her and B) they don't want to believe that their mom has this type of problem as it may be totally out of character for what they remember as their mom, or from the side she shows them.

Like someone else said, just report it as a concerned neighbor. Let them know that this is a BIG CHANGE in her personality and you are concerned for her welfare and for the safety of her and your neighbors and children.

Good luck... I'm sorry you are having to deal with this, but keep in mind it may truly be a brain disease robbing her personality of the kind person she used to be... how sad...

 

[BearSwampChick]

I'm sorry for your experience. You noted that when you first knew this lady she was kind and did special favors for your children. Her current behavior indicates side effects of having had a stroke. It can change your mental status and personality. She probably needs to be evaluated by her medical team. Contacting her family would do her and your family a favor.

 

[mom'sfolly]

Joan has mental issues, but she assaulted your kids. Anyone who grabs and screams at a kid should not get a free ride. The police should have a record of the call, the deputy should have a record and you should get a restraining order. So she hasn't hit your kids yet, but if she is this out of control she will. Get this done!!!!! It is almost impossible to get a EDO, the person has to be an immediate threat to herself or others. Don't keep defending this woman, even people with mental illness need to know their bad behavior will not be tolerated.

 

[purr]

well you didn't ask the smart thing to do so this is what I would have and actually did do when the older woman called my DD who was 9 at the time a w#ore . I flagged her down in her car forced her to stop and from what the kids said I threatened to beat her to within an inch of her life.
She waves and smile's to this day everytime she sees me.
Like I said you didn't ask the smart thing to do.