I Feel Really Sad

[Dances with Ducks]

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Well you have every right to talk about your life whenever you need to! It's sad he won't talk about it, instead he get's mean. How does that make sense? But it used to be people didn't think it was right to talk about difficult feelings, at least that how my parent's generation was, even my much older brother is just now getting to the point where he will talk about things he would have avoided before. Maybe he isn't cheating, maybe he's just got that kind of stuff bottled up that would make some men feel like taking that escape. Wish there was a way to soften him up.

 

[Pine Acres Peeps]

I dunno.
All I can do is just wait it out, if he ever cheats on me that would definently be the end, no going back from there.
He is the only and my first boyfriend, relationship, etc. so as mean as he gets I couldn't walk away I love him to death, unless like I said he cheats or if he ever physically hurt me. Hopefully, it will work itself out, I pray everynight so what's meant to be will be.

 

[Pine Acres Peeps]

Anyways, thanks for everything, everyone. I have been awake since about 5 am, I'm gonna go out a check on my chicks and head off to dream land, maybe I will dream I am getting more chicks!!
If anyone writes anything else I will be sure to read it when I wake up. Bye.

 

[crtrlovr]

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I was going to ask his approximate age because you may be onto something with your musing about his possibly going through "the change". There is solid evidence that men DO go through a hormonal shift just like women do in the peri-menopausal and menopausal stages. My DH wigged out a bit (but not in that way; just started making unexpected life changes like leaving the vocation he'd done since he was 13 yrs. old and started selling & installing satellite systems. Said he was "burned out" on the river; after about 3 yrs. he couldn't WAIT to get back to it). My brother got extremely moody and volatile (for him, anyway -- he's about as laid back as you can get and still be conscious

) so yes, it can certainly be a factor. Just b/c someone's demeanor changes does not automatically mean they're looking for something/someone else.

Go for counseling to a trusted minister or local counselor, even if your DH won't go with you.

 

[Mahonri]

Sounds like he needs to go to the Doc, get a good physical exam, and then you all may want to try out counseling. Hang in there. He's lucky to have someone who loves him so much.

 

[lakeshorenc]

Maybe I'm just different but if my DH would have talked to me that way in front of someone, I would have waited till we got home and had a long (loud) conversation about WHY he doesn't talk to me like that. I've been married 23 years and my DH is 8 years older than me and that just isn't gonna happen. I think sometimes we have to teach people how to treat us, JMO.

 

[MagsC]

I am so sorry you are going through this and hope things improve.

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

If it were me I would seriously sit him down with cup of coffee or dinner or something and try to clear the air. You need to let him know flat out how much his words are hurting you.

(((Big Hugs)))

 

[b.hromada]

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I have to agree here. I learned years ago, not to take anything from anyone. If you knew my back in my early teen years, you'd never recognize me now! I'd have let him have an ear full, then if he'd had kept it up, I'd of punched him. You are to good of a person to allow someone, even your husband to treat you like garbage. Sounds as though he was trying to show off to someone? What a jerk! Please stand up for yourself, you're the only one who can you know.

 

[gocrow77]

Sometimes I think I'd rather have my butt kicked than be called awful names by the person you love. Sorry to hear you are going through this. My hubby would have "b" slapped your hubby if he had been standing there and heard it all. I'm lucky I guess, not that he is perfect. but when it comes down to the "wire" so to speak I know he has my back. Hope you guys can resolve things - if not best thing to do may be to part ways. Abuse is abuse is abuse whether it's mental, physical, or emotional.