Many people feel differently about funerals. Some people feel like they must be there to "honor the dead"~show how much they liked that particular person, to support the family, or just because it is the thing that is expected.
I am a hospice nurse and, though I bond closely with my patients and their families, I do not attend the funerals. Our company wants us to do so because it "looks good". I still do not. My devotion,compassion and care were given 120% while they were alive, when it was needed the most. When they are gone it is much too late to "honor" them or support the family.
I feel that way about all my loved ones....I visit, call, love and care for them at every moment I can so that I don't have to have regrets about not "honoring" them while it is still useful to do so. I never hang up the phone without telling them I love them, I put that love into action by supporting them, being their friend in need and generally being glad they are alive...and showing them that.
After they are dead it seems kind of a moot point to show up out of some misplaced sense of duty or in a feeble attempt to show how much you cared for them.
I am a hospice nurse and, though I bond closely with my patients and their families, I do not attend the funerals. Our company wants us to do so because it "looks good". I still do not. My devotion,compassion and care were given 120% while they were alive, when it was needed the most. When they are gone it is much too late to "honor" them or support the family.
I feel that way about all my loved ones....I visit, call, love and care for them at every moment I can so that I don't have to have regrets about not "honoring" them while it is still useful to do so. I never hang up the phone without telling them I love them, I put that love into action by supporting them, being their friend in need and generally being glad they are alive...and showing them that.
After they are dead it seems kind of a moot point to show up out of some misplaced sense of duty or in a feeble attempt to show how much you cared for them.