I have WHAT in my yard? :
Part of what got me thinking this was an event the other day and many women were standing around. I realized after a moment that they were all ***ing about their husbands! And I had to think: Why??
Yes, we women need someone to vent to, but a general session like that is just bad. He is my best friend. Why would I want to diss him like that behind his back and in public? These women are not my busom buddies.
Besides, I picked this man and married him. If I put him down aren't I telling people that I stink at choosing?
I finally could stand it no longer. I said, "They can't be all that bad, the majority of you get to stay home with your children. Lots of women would take your husbands in a heartbeat for that alone." And I walked away. Needless to say these women are not likely to be my best friends any time soon!
Sometimes, we just need to reframe what the other person is doing and look for the good instead of the bad.
Boy, you couldn't be more right about that! I had (notice the past tense) two very close girlfriends that I used to get together with several times a week. One was going thru a divorce and the other was in a rocky live-in relationship. Our time together turned into total gripe sessions about men and I found that I would go home and be really ticked at my DH, even though he was sitting at home, taking care of the house, kids and animals without a complaint while I was out with friends. I had a falling out with the woman who I was closer to and while we weren't speaking realized that that type of relationship was not healthy. I love my husband and appreciate all the things he does for me. I enjoy doing healthy, positive things, not sitting around complaining. So, when the friend called and wanted to be friends again, I told her that I didn't hold any resentment toward her, but that I couldn't continue our friendship the way it had been. We still visit on e-mail and have had lunch together once, but I won't allow myself to be sucked back into that evil circle.
Part of what got me thinking this was an event the other day and many women were standing around. I realized after a moment that they were all ***ing about their husbands! And I had to think: Why??
Yes, we women need someone to vent to, but a general session like that is just bad. He is my best friend. Why would I want to diss him like that behind his back and in public? These women are not my busom buddies.
Besides, I picked this man and married him. If I put him down aren't I telling people that I stink at choosing?
I finally could stand it no longer. I said, "They can't be all that bad, the majority of you get to stay home with your children. Lots of women would take your husbands in a heartbeat for that alone." And I walked away. Needless to say these women are not likely to be my best friends any time soon!
Sometimes, we just need to reframe what the other person is doing and look for the good instead of the bad.
Boy, you couldn't be more right about that! I had (notice the past tense) two very close girlfriends that I used to get together with several times a week. One was going thru a divorce and the other was in a rocky live-in relationship. Our time together turned into total gripe sessions about men and I found that I would go home and be really ticked at my DH, even though he was sitting at home, taking care of the house, kids and animals without a complaint while I was out with friends. I had a falling out with the woman who I was closer to and while we weren't speaking realized that that type of relationship was not healthy. I love my husband and appreciate all the things he does for me. I enjoy doing healthy, positive things, not sitting around complaining. So, when the friend called and wanted to be friends again, I told her that I didn't hold any resentment toward her, but that I couldn't continue our friendship the way it had been. We still visit on e-mail and have had lunch together once, but I won't allow myself to be sucked back into that evil circle.
