I need some help with what to tell my neighbor. Please

[redhen]

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There is nothing rude about saying 'I'm sorry, but Damien can't run around bothering the animals like that. Please keep him with you or take him home'.

They would be rude if they took exception to that, you would not be rude for stating it.

It is not rude to differentiate yourself from a doormat.

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[redhen]

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My daughter's friend comes over to play and the first couple of times she was in the chicken run, she had a blast chasing the chicks around. Nope, that wasn't gonna happen. I walked to the gate and said, "No, thank you. We don't chase the chickens." I was calm and firm. She was startled. "Out of the run," I said. This happened twice. The third time it happened when her mom picked her up and I made sure to use the same quiet but firm tone in front of the mom. I further explained, "You would feel really bad if a chicken got hurt, and I would feel really bad if you got hurt. Please don't pick them up either." This is a simple no, and it worked. I wasn't rude. I simply removed her from the situation and was firm but gentle in front of her mom. We haven't had a problem since then, but it took three times for it to sink in.

Think of it this way: would you allow his dangerous behavior around a baby? Your chickens are babies, but they are living creatures that you care for. Be calm and assertive. No rudeness necessary.

Very true! Its all in how you say it...also..its not so much the kids feelings i'm worried about (Satan can handle it)

Its his grandparents i was worried about offending..

 

[GrayDragon]

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You are letting these people frighten and torment your animals for fear of being perceived as rude. You may not see yourself as a doormat, but so far, Damien has certainly been able to get away with treating you as one.

I was referring to you when you said to just say "no"...
that would be hard for me to do..

It's a one syllable word.

When they ask, 'can Damien go see your pet elephant?'

You say, 'no'.

You can offer an explanation if you wish, but you are not required to give one.

If they ask why, you can elaborate if you so choose, or you can just say, 'because the elephant is off-limits'.

If they get offended, that is their problem. They know their grandson shouldn't be treating the animals that way, and they are only allowing it because you have thus far given them permission. And they know it. They are the ones being rude to YOU.​

 

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[Dar]

I understand it can be hard to handle people that are so close they could be family..

and i agree you cant just throw them out rudeness gets you no where...

 

[Dar]

maybe use the bio security as an excuse...

bird flu perhaps?...

sorry back to my corner i go ... but i am taking mikey with me

 

[wombat]

You need another demon spawn kid around to teach this one to pee on the electic fence, that'll keep him off the farm for a while.

 

[redhen]

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OOh! Good idea! One that works for me....

 

[Sunny the Hippie Chick]

I didnt read all the replys, but most of them.

Maybe you should explain to them that you have a rooster or gander that is hitting puberty and is now being nasty towards people. And since a gander is about the size of a small kid. YOu dont want any one to get hurt.

 

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