I will never be nominated for Mother of the year Award thread

[mame1616]

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Ha ha!! I've done that! It's accompanied by "I can't believe you're treating me like such a baby!!" and stomping. Then they pass out five minutes later.

Of course, then you get in trouble because - "Why did you let me sleep for so long?!"

You just can't win.

 

[feather and mountain man]

I just give them the look

and if DH is there he always says to them if "MAMA AINT HAPPY AINT NOBODY HAPPY"

If I do say anything it is "Not in this house you don't."

 

[bt03]

I had a man come to my office yesterday and was complaining about his son. He was kicked out of his last school for getting busted with a bag of pot, he got into a physical fight with his mother, he never pulled his pants up, etc etc. He asked how I got so lucky as to have a child that is respectful, doesn't curse, and is generally a good kid. My answer... I don't let her run around like a heathen and I use a little technique called disciple, I don't do temper tantrums & I stick to any punishment I dish out.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

Exactly bt03!

Grounding - because I don't think ANY teenager can get thru life without one at some point - ours get put on the restrictions right off, but the length isn't set until EVERYONE is not ready to kill the others. It doesn't do any good to say you are grounded until you move out, no matter how tempting. We give it 24 hours, we can sit down and go over it like rational people (usually) and we can come to a reasonable punishment. Which means the kids know a grounding is just that, they don't get to debate it once it's set up.

Unlike the kids who get grounded for a year then know they can weasel Mom/Dad out of it because it was never really for a year, and they badger and bug the parents until they give up and let them off within 3 days.

 

[cackydoodledoo]

Sadly discipline is becoming a lost art!!! Following through is the most important thing a parent can do for their kid!! Don't tell them one thing and then do another. Kids like the one bt03 spoke of were probably always threatend but mom and dad never actually followed through. They know their parents are pushovers! My niece reported a girl that brought pot to school in fifth grade!! They suspended the girl from that school and sent her to another for about 2 months and then she was back. If I had brought pot to school when I was in fifth grade I would have gotten expelled from the whole school district for life!!!

 

[Dar]

my kids understand the "no takesy backsies" ...

and..

If momma says it she means it and dont try to talk her into getting your own way cause it will only lead to a longer grounding and more stuff taken away...

ask my now 19 year old...

he had everything except for a blanket and a pillow taken out of his room... The school called CPS.. and they came for a visit.. I explained the law states.. food clothing and shelter.. it mentions nothing about a bed and a dresser and an Ipod.. TV Xbox... ect.. and then I explained why I took everything out.. (carving his name and G/F name into the desk top after beinf caught with the S done he was told ot stop and didnt listen...

CPS quietly left my home...

 

[MamacitaGallina]

Just saying thanks! Some of these stories made me crack up.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

Sigh.

Was out with all the kids - our 8 bio and 1 foster kid. DD14 has a p/t job working in town for a printer, who happens to be homosexual. We've known this since before she got the job, we know her boss and his partner.

Someone came up to warn DH and I about DD's boss. DH promptly put his hand over DD's mouth before she got bratty and rude, even if it may be called for. I told the busy body that I knew he was homosexual and I wasn't offended. She said well, how could I think he'd be a good boss? I told her, well, he's fair to all employees, he offers good benefits and wages, he has no OSHA violations, I don't worry about my daughter working there. Busy body wanted to know how I couldn't be worried DD would catch his disease? I said, nope, I hope she learned all about how to be a fair and honest business person, and I was pretty sure it's been proven time and time again that homosexuality is not a disease to be spread. Then pointed out that our neighbors are openly homosexual also, and I let the kids go visit them.

She blew up like a irked broody hen and told me DH and I were degenerates, raising degenerate children.

Sigh. Please realise I have male children. Pro wrestling is ADORED in this house. 3 y/o happens to know what to do if D-X is mentioned in some way, shape or form.

All the kids just right away do that, and DH and I are just rolling.

Apparently we should be better parents. It was crass and not appropriate, but geesh, that woman wasn't either. Plus, really, yeah, we are pretty much crass people at times and snarky and it was funny.

 

[sfw2]

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If ignorance is bliss, you'd think more of these people would be happy, wouldn't you???

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

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If ignorance is bliss, you'd think more of these people would be happy, wouldn't you???

Exactly. Yeah, fine, I know our area, and we get "warned" about the neighbors off and on. No big deal, I say, yes, we know and leave it at that. We've been warned about DD's boss before. But once we say we know, stop there and leave us be. Go pray for us if you are so inclined (as we've been told before), but leave it alone.

I know, I'm an adult, and I should know better than to get pissy back. I'm blaming my horrible allergies and being 23 weeks pregnant.

But for Pete's sake - we have two printers who were hiring when DD turned 14. One is her boss. One is a jerk who pays minimum wage, tries to pay UNDER all the time, has countless OSHA violations, has turnover rate at like 60 days. But I should have her work for him because he's heterosexual. Yeah, I think not.

I will fully admit my children should not have followed up with what they did. But at the time, sorry, we adults both just started laughing too hard to speak, so how can we get them in trouble?

And I wonder why I bother being polite to the busy bodies. I swear, they are looking for a reason to blow up. Maybe I should have just let DD say what she wanted to, and called it good.