If you don't have children, then you have no right...

[foweler]

In response to your original post....

You (from what you said) didn't do anything wrong. You made a passing comment on the ins and outs of dealing with an infant.

You just happened to run into a psychopath that day. Don't allow it to make you doubt whether or not you are doing you best to raise your child. That's exactly what people like that want you to do.


On the other hand people who don't have kids do have a right to be concerned whether or not someone might be raising a future hoodlum. It effects them in the long run.

I don't have kids. I have step kids though. I live in a college town and I see the results of a lack of discipline every time I go downtown. I stay away from downtown because of it. It has effected me.
I was a kid once but even as wild as I was I would respect people because that is what I was taught to do.

However they do NOT have a right to say or do anything until a parent has demonstrated that their child is CLEARLY at risk of heading down a bad road. A casual comment or a misinterpreted circumstantial situation shouldn't bring the CPA to your door.

 

[jonathansenn]

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My dad always said that the good Lord put enough padding on the back side to handle a little discipline. My wife has stopped me once 'cause she was embarrassed. After I let her deal with a screaming 3yr old for a 30 min. shopping trip, she has no problem with me taking them to the car and applying the "board of education" to the "seat of knowledge".

 

[mom'sfolly]

May this guy be blessed with a colicky nocturnal newborn, a 12-year old daughter going through puberty, a 16-year-old son with a new sports car and liscence, a potty training toddler who does the bathroom tours, a climbing, fearless, more brawn then brains 14 month old, and a seven-year-old who still wets the bed.

He needs all these kids, simultaneously, in his dreams, for the next six months.

 

[cozycritters]

People without kids can't know what it's like-- and that's for sure.

I was at Walmart several weeks ago trying to get some maternity clothes. (I'm just starting to show-- I'm a petite 5'2" and weigh, pregnant, about 130 lbs-- I'm about 5 months pregnant at this point) We finally went to where some of the workers were just standing around and talking and asked and they said they don't carry them anymore.

Ok, no big deal...

Then, as we're walking away, one of the ladies *shouts* after us, "We have a PLUS size section, though!"

 

[Lucky Ducky]

I've got 3 kiddos. When my son was about 6 months old my aunt threw my cousin a baby shower. While at this shower, I was bouncing my son on my knee and lifting him above my head and he was laughing his butt off and another lady there who had no kids but is a librarian at the high school told me to stop " because I was going to turn my son into an adrenaline junky and he was going to be one of those kids who try to do all kinds of dangerous stuff, like skateboarding and racing." I look at her and told her me bouncing him wouldn't make him that way but his dad might. His dad races dirt bikes. Later on one of the things we had to do was write on a piece of paper a single piece of advice for the firt time mom, mine was " when raising your child, do what feels right to you and not what EVERYONE else tells you is right." My son is my middle child. My youngest is WAYYYY more reckless than my other two.

 

[Mandalina]

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oh that is just rude! i had someone make a comment about me being plus sized when i was very obviously 8mths pg with my first son. there is nothing plus sized about a preggo belly ontop of super scrawny legs and thin arms lol.

 

[MissPrissy]

I love to watch and observe someone who has never had children and make mental notes of the things they say and do. Then I love to watch them when they finally get one of their own and they eat crow day in and day out and have a shell shocked looked after the honeymoon season has passed and they have a real life screaming infant and a climbing toddler in a shopping buggy and only one free hand.

 

[Buff Hooligans]

Tell me again why people want these things?

 

[MissPrissy]

We all have our reasons for wanting children I suppose.

Somepeople want them and can never have them. Some have them and never want them.

I have my own children but I was also a surrogate. I stand from more than one hill top to look out from. Life is a beautiful gift to give if you are able to do so and respect that it is a blessing and a gift not only to give but to receive.

 

[EweSheep]

I read all of these posts and have been there and done it. Even our family counselor who has NO kids says we can not spank, because it is a form of child abuse and we should explain things until we are blue in the face. Kids can not understand reasons nor they are interested in hearing it either. UGH! If they are in danger, they will be spanked! So we switched counselors and this counselor we have now she has two kids of her own and she understands perfectly how we felt as parents and how we displine our dd. The method of taking kids out of the store is a good tool.

My own mother, she means well, can be a downer and thinks we are poor parents. I know she will say something about me with DD in my earlier post when she disappeared for no more than an hour. I am not looking forward in hearing it and wanted to avoid her at all costs. No parents are perfect but we try to the best we can!

Wanting children, we all have our own reasons, like Miss Prissy said.

Miss Prissy, kudos to you to be a surrogate mom!

and those who do give birth to children (in vitro implantation, etc.) and give the infant up at birth to their bio parents is the greatest gift that any woman can give to couples that are unable to conceive on their own. Its a miracle at best!