If you have long-term houseguests....

[gritsar]

See, I just knew I wasn't the only one that's had to deal with this. It's only been a few days and I'm already about to climb the walls. DH and I just rode to town to get my new glasses and I explained to him the things that were bothering me. He tends to be pretty clueless unless things are pointed out to him. And call me a coward, but these are HIS daughters so I feel like the girls would be more receptive if the rules come from him.
Putting up with one other woman (DSD#1) and the GS is one thing, but the other SD lives not far from here, so I couldn't understand why she wouldn't go home already!

She's the one that's the biggest slob.
I pointed out three things that are really bothering me. First off, the kitchen clean up. Second, the dog. Lastly, my personal hygiene products are just that, PERSONAL. I have moved my razors, my shampoos and soaps and everything else that touches my body (that I wouldn't want touching someone else's body) to the bedroom for the duration.
She's made it clear that she's not too happy about her dog (a year old chihuahua) being confined to the kitchen. I'm not real happy about finding little piles of dog poo hidden behind furniture, etc. If she wanted to allow her dog to have free run of the house, as our dogs do, she should have gotten off her butt and housebroken him a long time ago. We gave her a training crate when he was a pup and she first got him. Too bad it's never been used for anything but locking the poor dog up when she doesn't feel like dealing with him.
It's going to be a long couple of months.

 

[cassie]

Post the rules prominently on the rerfrigerator. As for doggie deposits, ask the owner to clean them up if and when you find them. Even if said owner is in bed asleep. Make 'em get up and take care of the problem.

 

[hunterjumper999]

find yourself another training crate. put the dog in the kitchen.

next time you see it OUT of the kitchen.

deposit it on the porch/yard in the crate. if she says its mean put it back in the kitchen.

it'll stay there.


my step dad used to put the cat litter in a bag on my BED if i didnt clean the box. I started being prompt about that one.

 

[silkydragon]

lol my friend lives with his girlfriend and her dad i think is just trying to make him move out at this point he always ask before he has guest over the dad complains about it after the guest leave he complains and my friend his girlfriend use a car and i guess the dad dos sometimes too but my friend pays for all the gas then the dad takes it and runs half a tank in a day and complains because he had to put $10 in (when the tank was full when he left) so when im like "i dont have a vehicle can you come get me?" we get there and the dad complains that he dosnt have money to pay for gas running me back and forth witch i watch my friend go to work get his paycheck and fill up the tank i only visit like once a month and dont live far away (like a 30 minute trip) so not much gas in his little car and last night he did something that didnt rly involve me but was annoying me and my friend where gonna have a starcraft party all night last night and he gets a text from his gf (dad used all the gas in his car and is going fishing in my car tomarrow i need a ride to work and school tomarrow) which got on my nerves because idc if im living in youre house or not i would not miss school/work for youre fishing trip and he didnt even ask just said im taking youre car tomarrow i ran out of gas but me i follow all houserules while im there they offer me food i still ask if i can have it before i get it i know my friend is alot more rude then me but i dont think he deserves what this guy is putting him through oh and he shares a bedroom/restroom with 2cats and 1 is a male that is always hacking up hairballs he cleaned out there garage to make room for the cats cuz he couldnt stand the smell and stuff but they wouldnt let him put the cats in the garage becouse he dosnt want "litter every where" on a concrete floor in a well ventelated room compared to a 4x4 rr with carpet? lol srry also just ranting but you could tell youre guest theres always worse out there and ill be bak in a bit to say about my crappy house guest just tired of typing atm

 

[Royd]

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Do us a favor and learn to punctuate. It would take 5 minutes, to deciepher that mess.

 

[Kansaseq]

Quote:
Do us a favor and learn to punctuate. It would take 5 minutes, to deciepher that mess.

X2.I honestly tried to read it but it's just too jumbled.

Gritsar,
They are guests in YOUR house. THEY are being very rude by behaving they way they are. And I agree that hubby should be the one to instruct, and enforce the rules. If the girls don't like it, they can go to a hotel, or home.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Sounds like your friend has a different issue than the OP. Semi-sort of related, but not the same.

 

[silkydragon]

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Do us a favor and learn to punctuate. It would take 5 minutes, to deciepher that mess.

X2.I honestly tried to read it but it's just too jumbled.

Gritsar,
They are guests in YOUR house. THEY are being very rude by behaving they way they are. And I agree that hubby should be the one to instruct, and enforce the rules. If the girls don't like it, they can go to a hotel, or home.

lol srry forgot i was in english class

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

You're not in English class, but you are trying to communicate. If something is too much trouble, people are not interested in taking the time to decipher. If it is worth taking time to write it down, it is worth the time to make it undertandable.

White space: paragraphs, blank lines and spacing are very important in making any writing easy to read.

Sentence structure with noun and verb agreement, punctuation so that you can tell where one sentence ends and another begins are important to understanding. Use of specific names or labels rather than lots of non-specific pronouns make things clear.

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lol my friend lives with his girlfriend and her dad i think is just trying to make him move out at this point he always ask before he has guest over the dad complains about it after the guest leave he complains and my friend his girlfriend use a car and i guess the dad dos sometimes too but my friend pays for all the gas then the dad takes it and runs half a tank in a day and complains because he had to put $10 in (when the tank was full when he left) so when im like "i

who owns the car? who owns the house? who is trying to make whom move out? who puts gas in the car? who complains? None of these is very clear.​

 

[Imp]

Oh Gritty, Oh Gritty, Oh Gritty,

No real advice, but here's an amusing story from my youth. Back in the mid 70s mom decided to pull out all the 60s neon colored shag carpeting from the house and replace it with a soft cream color throughout the house. 3 days later paternal grammy and her husband showed up for a couple week vacation. They had 2 mini poodles. We opened the front door and in came grammy, Rick, and the two dogs. Mom saw the dogs turned as white as a sheet, within 30 seconds both dogs had messed on the new carpeting. Mom lost her cool and banished the dogs from the house with a very real and serious threat to their life expectancy. Grammy started to object. Wrong move, she was next out the door. Rick was kind of meek so he just left. Grammy looked to dad for help. He was a little smarter, just said "no way" "It was mom's house". Guess he didn't want to be banished to the garage. So Grammy, Rick, and the dogs slept in the bed of their pickup in a 4 foot tall pop up camper, for the next 2 weeks.

Imp- I was kind of glad I didn't have to give up my room.