If you knew someone who was doing something very dangerous and stupid

[60ACRES]

Alot of people can get by with this kind of behavior. Most of us are more stable and cannot understand this. Just like some one can sell everything they own and move to Amsterdam without ever having been there before. Most of us need the security of knowing where your next hot shower will be.
*myself included.

I guess thats what makes the world go round, it takes all kinds. Besides some one has to be the ones on the news...

 

[onthespot]

Look in the front of the phone book under county services and look for Mental Health and give them a call and tell them your concerns.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

Ol'FashionHen :

My nephew also has ADHD, his dad had it as well. His dad's lessoned as he got older and doc's says his probably will too. The great upside is his dad is super smart...held 4.0 all through high school and received a full paid scholarship too. He is now a occupational theropist who was the only one in his class to pass his state exam on the first try. Started out making $31.00 an hour.
So my nephew

, we don't care how hyper he is we love em' up anyway. He is a great boy and loves his little brother

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Awesome!!! I love these stories!!! I would just love to see what would happen if someone told my son he was disabled because of his ADHD!!!

I met a doctor once when my youngest was in the hospital and we were talking.....she has ADHD. She told my son "congratulations, we can accomplish 10 times what a normal person can". I loved that!!!

 

[luvmychicknkids]

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OH MY this got me laughing!!!!

Yes, onthespot, I will call and see if they think there is anything that can/should be done and that will be the end of my concern. I really do know she doesn't intend to help herself anyway.

Thanks everyone.

 

[Fudgie]

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WOW I never thought of that...I guess that is why I can take care of so much and still keep going...people ask me all the time how come i am not dead on my feet and I say...I don't have a clue. I suppose I should be! I just need to learn to harness that energy I have in my brain!

 

[LilbitChicken]

Interesting situation. I can't say who I agree with, because there a points on either side....

You can always tell her how you feel, and that you don't agree with her choices. (if you aren't great friends any way, you won't be breaking the friendship!)

I would mention it to her sister, JUST IN CASE something happens- and you felt guilt for never saying anything to warn her family?

HOWEVER, do not feel guilty for not stepping in- to the point, of stopping her from moving in with someone, her decision, her choice.
Whatever she does, she needs to deal with it- not you!

 

[ChooksChick]

I'm ADHD. My kids are ADHD.

They've been invited to Mensa (NO WAY!!) and are both in gifted. They each have an IEP, but it's so I can get them away from the mundane that's too easy for them that their schoolmates still need instruction to learn. The 7th grader is just finishing 9th grade Algebra and will get to be in the Model United Nations next year. The 5th grader participated in an Engineering Expo at the University here. I'd love to see their reaction if I told them we were going to get a check for their disabilities!!

The night before I took my ACT's back in the 80's I didn't sleep- was up playing Dungeons and Dorks (Hahahaha)- I still scored off the charts...ADHD isn't a handicap, but it does require coping mechanisms and different self-control.

I'd be curious to know what it's like to be 'normal' but I wouldn't want to be unable to get things done the way I do- it looks like I have 23 projects going, because I do, and it looks like nothing's getting done because everything is happening at once, all mishmash...but at the end of the day I whip out the 23 finished projects and a normal person has a couple that were finished in a linear fashion.

As for the gal who's an energy leech, you have to tell her directly that you think she's making a bad choice, tell her where she can get help, and then walk away. Enabling her is taking your energy from other things that you need to be able to focus on. I have a very dear friend walking down a path like that, and after 30 years of kindred sisterhood, I may have to walk away- it's bleeding me dry and she doesn't want to be saved, bottom line.

Pray hard, and leave it up to the One in control. You are very good and kind and can save those that want saving...perhaps volunteer the amount of time you would normally have given her.

Best of luck!

 

[Chicken Fruit]

Is this the same certain someone whom you have mentioned before over the last few months? Because it sounds like it is.

I think you need to cut this woman out of your life entirely. I know she's a friend and all... but you cannot be emotionally responsible for her actions, or her foolishness. Some times you just gotta shed people off in order for them to grow at all.

If it were someone else, who was not generally subject to these sorts of issues and poor directions I'd say you should intervene, but some people just WANT to fail.

Everyone has what they want out of life, or they change it until it IS what they want, that change internal and instant- the rest follows after. She's not making any moves to improve herself, in fact she's proven repeatedly that she's searching for quite the opposite.

Tell her its a bad idea, and then walk away from her entirely.

Its rough, but thats what I would do.

I didnt read through all the posts, so I am just going on the original.

 

[PunkerTechnoRoo?ter]

Stay away from her as there is a good chance that she might just do something detrimental to your family.
Like bring the new roommate over and he could possibly be as bad as she is.

In my time as a health provider to the mental health community in my area I saw that, most of the time, a person with mental issues will eventually find and connect with another person those mental issues they have is close or even worse than their own. Most of the time it doesnt turn out well.

 

[cariboujaguar]

use her to teach your kids an important life lesson and let nature take it's course. We cull animals to keep the breed true, why don't we ever let some idiot humans do it themselves? you are the weakest link, goodbye! LOL