I'm a new mother and going out of my mind! help!

[sunshineinsc]

((((HUGS))))

I've read thru some of the posts but not all. This is my 2 cents

1. Could baby have reflux? Even if they don't spitup they can still have it. baby 5 did and after put on meds he was a different baby. He was extremely gassy and after meds that went away.

2. cosleeping is wonderful if it works for you and baby

3. sometimes babies like to be laid down and left alone, no rocking, music ect..

4. try putting baby down every 90 mins for a nap (baby# 5 is 8 months old and still naps 2- 2 1/2 hours after getting up)

5. cry it out won't cause years of therapy


6. try feeding more cereal


7. go for a long walk it will make you feel better.


If you don't get the housework done or dinner made oh well life will go on. seriously it will.

 

[PearlD]

My doctor prescribed Paragoric drops. I gave those to my youngest. Of course, I didn't know they were opiate based at the time or I never would've given them to him. The leg curling and gassy-ness went away immediately. Sometimes he would relax so much, he would just poop and stop crying.
We discontinued ASAP. I would rather listen to a screaming baby than know I was drugging him to make him stop.

Now on the other hand.........For myself

***Plug your ears Tom Cruise*****:

I agree with Rhett&sarahsmom. I admit I took antidepressants after both my kids were born. I had a very severe case of PPD that lasted until my youngest was almost 2. Don't be afraid to seek professional help if you feel you need it. Antidepressants can be lifesavers sometimes.

 

[mom'sfolly]

I forgot to add, every time my kids went through a growth spurt they started nursing more frequently again. After about a week my milk supply went up and they went back to nursing every 4 hours or so. So at 4-5 months your little girl may be going through a growth spurt, eating more and having growing pains. They grow so fast it hurts and it makes them fussy.

My now ten year old grew so fast that he would outgrow shoes in a couple of months. Toddler time was interesting because every growth spurt made him hungry, cranky and tired. Now he's about 5 feet tall and has a men's size seven shoe.

It gets better, it gets better, it gets better.

I never cried more in my life than the first couple of months with my 10 year old. He was tongue-tied, developed breast aversion, was colicky, and I thought he hated me. I was tired all the time....................................it gets better.

 

[purr]

crunchie absolutely come on over and we'll make chocolate chip cookies.

And Tom Cruise can kiss my A$$.
When he goes through labor and pushes out a baby then he can open his darn mouth and not before.
If you need help , you get help any kind chemical or otherwise.

 

[SarahF]

thank you EVERYONE for your helpful advice. I wasn't able to read all the posts, but most and trust me, I've tried almost everything! She certainly has her good days, but certainly has her terrible days. Today, is a good day so far. She ofcouse woke up a number of times lastnight, pulling her legs up and fussing. She's taking a nap right now, so I managed to take a shower, finally!

I have a call in to the lactation consultant who helped me when Avery was born. I'm hoping to make an appointment with her and maybe she'll be able to help. Avery's Dr. is on vaca till the 14th!

Last night, after Avery had been crying a couple hours, DH came home and I needed to get outside and be by myself. He took her willingly and suggested I feed/water the chickens (all 20 of them

) and work on the garden (which I Love doing...wish I had more time!). Great ideas I thought. So I spent 25 minutes outside and came in to fill up the water and she was SCREAMING! You should have seen his face! It looked like he was about to go ape sh*t on someone! Poor guy. I told him "welcome to the past 5 months of my life!" and walked out the door. Good medicine for him.

Someone kindly suggested changing from Rice cereal to Oatmeal cereal. I'm going to do that starting today. I gave Avery applesauce yesterday, and she loved it. Should I continue giving it to her, or wait 3-4 days for a reaction?

I truly appreciate everyones responses. It's not easy being at home all day with a baby and the only people you want to talk to are your MIL (who's advice you don't want to take) and your best friend, who has no kids but lots of opinions on how I should and shouldn't be doing things. I figure that who else has great advice than a bunch of mother's!?!?! I have always been given great advice here.

xoxo

Sarah

 

[purr]

the applesauce should be fine dear and good for you letting hubby get a taste of reality and let us know if the oatmeal is making a difference. You might want to take baby outside with you to see the chickens my daughter was fascinated with small objects that ran around crazy like.
Hang in there,

 

[jkcove08]

I dont think I saw in all the wonderful posts but in the states we have stuff called mylacan drops. There is also the similar thing made by gerber. You put a drop or 2 in her mouth and then feed her. I used it with my children when they got all gassy. It works wonders since I used it in thier bottles and then couldnt figure out why when I would wash dishes all of a sudden my bubbles disapeared...lol The left over mylacan would instantly kill all the bubbles. I always had to was the bottles last. Just take a deep breath. I was so scared with my first child too and almost lost her to RSV at 2 months. This was due to my pain in the a%% ex hubby. You will know in your heart what is needed along with all of this wonderful help. Also as far as co- sleeping, I did with my 5 yr old from 2 to 3 yrs of age and my 2 yr old also co-sleeps with us now. We put him in his bed at night and then he wakes and comes to bed with us around 3 am. I enjoy the snuggle time with my children when we go to bed. It is truely up to you if you want to co-sleep. Dont feel that there is a right and a wrong, every child is different and it is what you are comfortable with doing. Jenn

 

[Robin'sBrood]

Sarah, I just want to offer you a great big

Please keep talking/venting... if nothing else, it'll help you some just by "getting it off your chest."

From a mother of 4 kids (ages 20, 15, 10 & 7-- tomorrow!) who thought I would completely lose my mind many times, but somehow still manages to have at least some of it.

 

[2 Beauts]

Sarah,

Thank you for keeping us updated!

I just remembered something that might help. When mine were little, after an afternoon outside, they were exhausted. It might be worth a try for you, too. Weather permitting, drop that beautiful baby in a stroller or a snugli, and head out for a nice brisk walk. Maybe all that jiggling will help with the gas. Plus a change of enviroment can do some good for everyone. And, excercise helps with any depression that could be creeping in.

If she's gonna cry, she's gonna cry. It doesn't mean you have to keep staring at the same four walls while she does it.

 

[asher]

Oh! I agree! One of my three oldest, the only thing that would sooth them was talking them out in the stroller. It became a daily routine, something we did every evening that relaxed them enough to go to bed.

Worked for us! Do what works for you!

I would hesitate to add any food right now without your doctors approval just in case there are allergies playing in to this.