Well, my eldest stepdaughter (w/her son) came home from NM last weekend. For how long is anybodys guess. One day she says she's leaving her husband, the next day she says she's only home for a visit.
She got here Friday night, went straight to her mom's house, finally made it up here on Sunday. She brought her younger sister up here with her. Younger sister is sick with a cold (as usual!), so of course she wanted to share that; despite how many times I have talked to her about her dads comprimised immune system. We haven't seen the younger one - for simplicitys sake, I'll call her #2 - in months. She didn't call her dad for his birthday, Christmas or New Years. She didn't make the effort to see him, despite the fact that he works in the same town she lives in.
When they got here I gave #2 her Christmas presents. I had spent about $75 total on her, a variety of goats milk soaps and a pair of earrings I made her. The earrings were her style. We also put $20 in a tiny little stocking for her. She said not a word about the gifts, not so much as a thank you. She set them aside and quickly pocketed the 20 bucks.
They stayed all Sunday and overnight. #1's dog was allowed to run freely in the house, pooping where he wanted, despite both her dad and I telling her multiple times that he is to stay confined to the kitchen. He's a chihuahua, about a year and a half old, not housebroken. Every time we turned around the dog was loose in the house again. The 4 1/2 year old GS was allowed to do as he pleased. Special meals were prepared for the child because he won't eat the wholesome food I prepare. They ate, didn't clean up after themselves and #2 managed to somehow go through a 12 pack of the rarely kept in the house sodas.
As soon as their dad left for work on Monday, they left. Without a word. I picked up my house, searched and removed 3 piles of dog poo, cleaned dog pee off of two appliances and the cat's scratching post. Things returned to normal.
We haven't heard a word from the girls since then. Late last night I get a text message from #1. "We want to come up and stay with you this weekend if that's okay".
I'm sorry, but it's most definitely NOT okay. My DH is off weekends at the present time. We have things to do that we didn't get accomplished last weekend due to their visit. I want some time alone with my DH. His work schedule doesn't leave much room for couples time and I miss him so much when he's working.
I ignored her text, shut my cell phone off and haven't turned it back on since. I didn't mention the text to DH, but I did make it clear that I want, no NEED, some couples time.
I feel like I'm being mean; no, there's a word for what I feel like I'm being, but I can't use it on a family friendly forum.
What else can I do? I feel like a carpet that's been tread on way too much.
She got here Friday night, went straight to her mom's house, finally made it up here on Sunday. She brought her younger sister up here with her. Younger sister is sick with a cold (as usual!), so of course she wanted to share that; despite how many times I have talked to her about her dads comprimised immune system. We haven't seen the younger one - for simplicitys sake, I'll call her #2 - in months. She didn't call her dad for his birthday, Christmas or New Years. She didn't make the effort to see him, despite the fact that he works in the same town she lives in.
When they got here I gave #2 her Christmas presents. I had spent about $75 total on her, a variety of goats milk soaps and a pair of earrings I made her. The earrings were her style. We also put $20 in a tiny little stocking for her. She said not a word about the gifts, not so much as a thank you. She set them aside and quickly pocketed the 20 bucks.
They stayed all Sunday and overnight. #1's dog was allowed to run freely in the house, pooping where he wanted, despite both her dad and I telling her multiple times that he is to stay confined to the kitchen. He's a chihuahua, about a year and a half old, not housebroken. Every time we turned around the dog was loose in the house again. The 4 1/2 year old GS was allowed to do as he pleased. Special meals were prepared for the child because he won't eat the wholesome food I prepare. They ate, didn't clean up after themselves and #2 managed to somehow go through a 12 pack of the rarely kept in the house sodas.
As soon as their dad left for work on Monday, they left. Without a word. I picked up my house, searched and removed 3 piles of dog poo, cleaned dog pee off of two appliances and the cat's scratching post. Things returned to normal.
We haven't heard a word from the girls since then. Late last night I get a text message from #1. "We want to come up and stay with you this weekend if that's okay".
I'm sorry, but it's most definitely NOT okay. My DH is off weekends at the present time. We have things to do that we didn't get accomplished last weekend due to their visit. I want some time alone with my DH. His work schedule doesn't leave much room for couples time and I miss him so much when he's working.
I ignored her text, shut my cell phone off and haven't turned it back on since. I didn't mention the text to DH, but I did make it clear that I want, no NEED, some couples time.
I feel like I'm being mean; no, there's a word for what I feel like I'm being, but I can't use it on a family friendly forum.
What else can I do? I feel like a carpet that's been tread on way too much.
that you need to go in your own house and clean up poop again! 
