Background: One of my older half sisters lives in the same town in Florida that my dad (her stepdad) does. Sister used to live in Miami but her house and place of employment were both destroyed during Hurricane Andrew so she moved to this other town where my parents were living (my mom has since passed away). Sister is raising her two grandsons, both of whom have major mental health issues. She belongs to a group of grandparents raising their grandchildren and most of her moral support comes from them; also her church. When we visited Dad earlier this year sister came over every single day. She tried to be coy about it, but she borrowed money from Dad each time; $20 here, $50 there, etc. I later learned from Dad that this has been going on for years. Dad lives on his own and is very active; needing only occasional help.
Sister often makes comments on facebook about how hard a life she has raising her GSs and helping my dad out. She also mentions frequently that she made a promise to our mom to help dad out after mom passed away. For reasons too long to get into here, I doubt that mom ever asked that of her. Sister has the whole martyr thing down pat.
The other day my sister made a comment on FB about how alone she was for the thanksgiving holiday (my Dad spent the holiday with his girlfriend) and how she was glad to have her church meal to go to. Her GD, who lives in Texas, said something like "Grandma, you should move here to Texas so you won't be alone on holidays". My sister made her standard reply that she couldn't move away from her town because of her promise to my mom, yada, yada, yada. On one of the previous occasions where sister posted about how hard she has it looking out for dad, I suggested to her on her post that perhaps I should ask dad to come out here for a visit. She quickly retracted her statement.
I wanted to post if she would help me convince my dad to move out here with us she could move anywhere she wanted to, but restrained myself.
Today sister posted on FB about how she enjoyed proving my dad wrong about something this morning. Apparently dad got his medications mixed up and thought the mail order pharmacy he used had made a mistake. After my sister's friends finished cyber hugging her and telling her how bad they feel for her (that she has such burdens on her shoulders), sis posted again saying that dad was still confused about it and wanted to have the last word. To me it seemed like she was really making fun of my dad.
I have brooded on this all day. At first I was really tempted to call dad and try once again to talk him into moving out here. I know he never will because all his large network of friends are there, also he wouldn't be able to tolerate our cold winters. Dad is in excellent health for 89 years old, but he does have a lifelong respiratory issue.
Finally I couldn't stand it anymore. I posted on sister's post "We can only hope that someone has alot of patience with us when we get to be Dad's age, IF we get to be Dad's age".
Was I right to make that comment?
Sister often makes comments on facebook about how hard a life she has raising her GSs and helping my dad out. She also mentions frequently that she made a promise to our mom to help dad out after mom passed away. For reasons too long to get into here, I doubt that mom ever asked that of her. Sister has the whole martyr thing down pat.
The other day my sister made a comment on FB about how alone she was for the thanksgiving holiday (my Dad spent the holiday with his girlfriend) and how she was glad to have her church meal to go to. Her GD, who lives in Texas, said something like "Grandma, you should move here to Texas so you won't be alone on holidays". My sister made her standard reply that she couldn't move away from her town because of her promise to my mom, yada, yada, yada. On one of the previous occasions where sister posted about how hard she has it looking out for dad, I suggested to her on her post that perhaps I should ask dad to come out here for a visit. She quickly retracted her statement.
I wanted to post if she would help me convince my dad to move out here with us she could move anywhere she wanted to, but restrained myself.
Today sister posted on FB about how she enjoyed proving my dad wrong about something this morning. Apparently dad got his medications mixed up and thought the mail order pharmacy he used had made a mistake. After my sister's friends finished cyber hugging her and telling her how bad they feel for her (that she has such burdens on her shoulders), sis posted again saying that dad was still confused about it and wanted to have the last word. To me it seemed like she was really making fun of my dad.
I have brooded on this all day. At first I was really tempted to call dad and try once again to talk him into moving out here. I know he never will because all his large network of friends are there, also he wouldn't be able to tolerate our cold winters. Dad is in excellent health for 89 years old, but he does have a lifelong respiratory issue.
Finally I couldn't stand it anymore. I posted on sister's post "We can only hope that someone has alot of patience with us when we get to be Dad's age, IF we get to be Dad's age".
Was I right to make that comment?
