I'm so old I Remember when:

[chrissynemetz]

 

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[ChicksnMore]

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Now I'm going to have the theme song stuck in my head all day

 

[sdm111]

I have a twin brother and it used to, ah, tick me off that he had privileges that I didn't because "he's a boy." What they could not explain to me and I could not understand until I became a parent was that girls are vulnerable in ways that boys are not, and also they are precious to their parents in ways that boys are not. I just thought they thought I was weak or stupid or they didn't trust me or something. It was the world they didn't trust and I understand their love and concern now. Trust me, they mean well even if they can't explain it.

Being the father of a daughter if anybody ever did something to her if I found them that would be my last free day and I'll be ok with that if need be

 

[Evadig]

Being the father of a daughter if anybody ever did something to her if I found them that would be my last free day and I'll be ok with that if need be

I have a twin brother and it used to, ah, tick me off that he had privileges that I didn't because "he's a boy." What they could not explain to me and I could not understand until I became a parent was that girls are vulnerable in ways that boys are not, and also they are precious to their parents in ways that boys are not. I just thought they thought I was weak or stupid or they didn't trust me or something. It was the world they didn't trust and I understand their love and concern now. Trust me, they mean well even if they can't explain it.

I guess that’s why my parents are so protective of me…but I do think they also don’t want to let me go either. It’s hard for me to assert any independence without feeling guilty about it. It gets frustrating at times.

 

[Brooks_]

I guess that’s why my parents are so protective of me…but I do think they also don’t want to let me go either. It’s hard for me to assert any independence without feeling guilty about it. It gets frustrating at times.

Tell them you identify as GenX and will be back when the street lights come on.

 

[sdm111]

I guess that’s why my parents are so protective of me…but I do think they also don’t want to let me go either. It’s hard for me to assert any independence without feeling guilty about it. It gets frustrating at times.

My daughter did have alot of freedom. Not as much as I did just cause it's just different times as in as a kid I was always with friends outside and like said had to be home when the lights came on. Kids just aren't like that for the most part but she did have the freedom to go. To me Kids need that for social interaction and street smarts. I don't think it's good to shelter a kid then all of a sudden kid gets let out at 18 or whatever and has no street smarts. Even worse when they are 25 or 30 years old. By that time they know nothing of real life and half way through it. They're left on thier own into the real world.

 

[RoyalChick]

Just made me think but without going into a rant. People are having so many new ideas about how kids should be raised that I wonder if what you said which is exactly how It was when I was a kid and how it was with my kids if it will soon be a thing of the past. And if so how detrimental it may become for young girls in future generations. The world isn't getting any safer.

Well that is for sure.
I am an only child so cannot compare to how a boy would have been raised, but once I learned to ride a bike I had a lot of freedom. I think much more than is imaginable today.
What I was taught though were some self protection rules. Never get in a strange car, never be alone with a stranger.l, that sort of thing. And we all seemed to understand that and looked out for each other.

 

[ChicksnMore]

I guess that’s why my parents are so protective of me…but I do think they also don’t want to let me go either. It’s hard for me to assert any independence without feeling guilty about it. It gets frustrating at times.

My mom comes from a culture where the girls didn't move out until they married...so I think I know what you mean. Even after I moved several states away, I'm expected to call her and let her know I arrived safely if I'm going on a trip. She wants nightly calls to reassure her I'm still alive and safe when I'm traveling, and well into my 50's she'd still get upset when I'd take my girls camping by myself. She'd tell me because I'm small and look younger than I am someone might snatch me and I'm not safe . I try my best to give her what she needs to feel connected and loved...lots of phone calls and annual visits etc. But at the same time I trust myself and never let her fears stop me from living. Road trips, camping trips with my kids and no hubby along etc. I never poo-poo her worries...I just tell her how I keep safe, how much fun we had etc. You'll find your way to independence if you just keep reaching for it, and you're freedom doesn't have to be a guilty thing or harm your relationship with your parents. You'll get there