But I have a little problem with the idea of horse handling as relationship advice. See, I have a mare; when I got her, every so often she'd reach over and nip at me. I'd smack her on the shoulder and yell when she did. Wasn't long before all I had to do was growl, "don't even think about it," and she'd straighten right up. I tried the same thing with my husband, but after 28 years, he still bites me! Is he just a slow learner, or am I doing something wrong?