inconsiderate people rant

[country lady]

"All sarcasm aside, yeah, I know I'm being a jerk and being a coward by not communicating with them. But you know what? I feel safe being imperfect here at BYC. Very grateful to all those here that put up with me."



You are beating yourself up for nothing. These people don't deserve any sympathy or excuses for their awful behavior. How is it that they have a nanny if they owe you money? Are they calling a babysitter a nanny?

Sorry, I would not put up with these inconsiderate clods for one minute. I understand your husband's friendship with them but they are not returning friendship to your family. I don't believe I am being harsh with them at all. Friendship is a two-way street. This friendship sounds dead-end to me. Evidently, you have good manners to tolerate their behavior.

 

[egglicious]

Thanks all for your comments. I went to bed last night feeling pretty bad that I had started this thread, not because I think I was wrong for feeling the way I did, but because I normally try not to talk bad about people I care about on the internet. Really, these folks are not bad people, but like everyone they are flawed. I do feel like they don't value our friendship as much as we value theirs, and that makes me frustrated and sad. Even so, it wouldn't be fair to "unfriend" them when they have no idea what they did. Like I said earlier, they are just unaware. Perhaps in the future we can work on being more honest with them. I just didn't want to hurt their feelings. Also, I may have been more able to deal better with all of it had I not been so stressed out.

There was a comment earlier about how we don't deserve their friendship because we were judging their behavior and their house. Well, everyone who is alive judges others' behavior and determines from that what their opinion is about it and how they will react to it. Where I was wrong was venting about it on the web, but I was frustrated. But I absolutely disagree that we don't deserve them as friends. My husband would do just about anything for these folks, and I support him in that.

Okay, I'm done now. Thanks again to those of you who tried to help!

 

[CluckyJay]

It is totally possible too that they don't "see" or smell the doggy stuff. If you live in something long enough, you become immune to it.

 

[egglicious]

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Yup. I think this is totally the case.