is this ridiculous, or am I expecting too much? long RANT!

[SurprisingWoman]

I moved to Utah from Texas.

I heard many horror stories before moving here about the "evil Mormons."

After working at a company in SLC and riding the commuter bus for some weeks I had seen and heard things I had questions about. There were some obvious differences and I wanted to get the information from a credible source. The horses mouth, so to speak.

I was talking to my boss one day and I told her,

"I need to find a Mormon."

"Ummm, you need to find a Mormon?"

"Yeah, I have a lot of questions about things I have seen and heard on the bus and I don't want gossip or things to be misrepresented. I want to get my information from someone that I can ask and have them know I just really want to learn."

She said,

"Brenda, everyone you work with is a Mormon."

I had been surrounded every day and I had no idea.

Bwahahahaha

Sometimes people want to ask a person living that faith to find out how they feel about their religion and see what is important to them. I was trying to find a Mormon to be respectful, not anything else.

Hopefully that is what people are doing when they approach the OP but she would be able to tell a lot by their tone and body language.

From her signature it looks like she is surrounded by stupid people. Having to send all the chickens to freezer camp over a non existent flu worry?

 

[GrayDragon]

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Tone of voice, body language, wording of the question, where the question is being asked, and the manner in which it was asked all play a part.


Walk up to a total stranger, giggling, and interrupt them to ask if they take off their head-covering to shower and you will get one manner of response.

Strike up a polite conversation, and during the course of the conversation respectfully ask if they have to wear their head-covering indoors and you will get a different manner of response.


A person isn't 'bitter' or 'hateful' for giving the response they give in the first scenario, and the OP (and my aforementioned friend) already stated they were okay with the second scenario.

 

[arabookworm]

I would just like to point out that I don't have a problem with americans, especially since, as I stated earlier, I am an american. by birth. and my parents officially became citizens this week.

my problem is not with people who ask stupid questions, its with people who ask stupid questions, knowing that their question is stupid, with a smirk on their face, while their friends are huddled in the distance snickering waiting to hear my response. you guys have to remember that I am not talking about adults asking these questions, I am talking about teens, the same teens who also ask me if I live in a pyramid and ride my pet camel to school every morning. as I said in an earlier post, there is a noticeable difference between someone asking sincerely and someone who thinks he or she is being funny. you are right, most people are sincere, and I was not irritated with them. I was irritated with the ones who think it is funny to waste my time with questions they already know the answer to.

 

[deb1]

Most people who ask questions are sincerly curious. I don't think that the OP is speaking about people who might accidentally ask a rude question in the hope of honestly learning. Most of your questions, I am betting, would not bother her. She is speaking about people who ask questions merely to laugh or mock at another person. I've had it happen to my husband and I've seen it happen to others.

There are some people who are simply bothered by the fact that everyone is not the same.

 

[McCord6]

Many people ask me how I can be completely profoundly deaf and still be oral. They also ask me how I manage having children when Im deaf. Many times they ask me how I can dance (hubby and I are dancers in high school) when we can't hear the music. Even of how hubby and I be deaf and have children who are also.

Im oral cuz my mom inforced it and I was not ALWAYS profoundly deaf, I have hearing lost that gotten worse and worse over the years. How do I manage having children? PAY ATTENTION, it takes more then hearing to raise children. Got eyes? Use them! About dancing? Deafs don't hear music, we feel it. Deafness can be genetic, which is what our case is.

There are many more other questions we get at a daily base.

 

[debilorrah]

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I sign and I am hearing, and SOOO many people ask me how deaf people can drive. I'm like REALLY??? People think that deafness is a disability - it's a condition. Like arthritis, NOT a death sentence.

 

[Julie08]

McCord, I assume being able to communicate on the internet must be a huge plus for you?

 

[sundance]

I'm sorry you were offended, but now days people think nothing of asking personal question. I usually just say it's gonna rain tomarrow,& walk away.and by the way I would probably be one that asked a question. How do you tie, it I love them, I think they look great and would love to know how, But I would never have the nerve to walk up to a person I did not know and ask questions. Now if I met you in a store I would start a conversation about some thing and eventyally(sp) get around to asking how you fix it.I love the way the Africians tie theirs to and would probably ask one when I fine one in a store I could talk to. marrie

 

[wombat]

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In that case:

I suppose you might want to consider whether you're being teased because of your religion, or if you're simply being teased because you are a teenager and you are surrounded by other teenagers. Teenagers tease each other all the time, and for any reason at all. You just happen to have a more convenient reason to take it personally. I wouldn't be concerned over it, unless it is actually mean, discriminatory, and you're being specifically singled out.

Teenagers tease each other over being too tall or too short or too skinny or too fat or having pimples or having a bad haircut or having the wrong sneakers or a geeky girlfriend/boyfriend or no girlfriend/boyfriend or liking the wrong band or wearing last month's fasion ... not that any of that is right or very nice, but it sort of goes with the age group.

Fitting in, being accepted, being part of the "crowd" are all teenage behaviors ... then you become an adult, and spend the rest of your life trying to stand out and be different.

 

[debilorrah]

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Communication on the internet is a huge plus for everyone.