Isa's Homestead Happenings and Hangout

[Painted Calls]

Made by someone else?

*with

 

[SourRoses]

 

[bill3607]

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Are you showcasing the knitting or the toes or both?

 

[Brooks_]

Are you showcasing the knitting or the toes or both?

 

[bill3607]

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Why would you think that is what that was?

 

[Brooks_]

Why would you think that is what that was?

Because Dawg.

 

[bill3607]

Hmmm is it because I called it knitting?

 

[Isadora]

I have an irl drama to share but not tonight. It's too long. I'll get around to it probably in the next few days.

So for my story.
There's a couple we know through church who have been great friends to Diego and I. They're about my parents ages, so around 60. We see them at church each week and we've both been to each other's homes for supper, so more than just casual acquaintances. The wife really loves kids in general and always showed great affection for our kids.
She started behaving strangely a while ago, like I went over with my youngest to say HI and she didn't even look at me or anything. I brushed that off initially because I thought maybe she was in a bad mood or felt sick. We don't talk to every single person at church every week so I didn't realize right away that this behavior was going to be permanent. Ever since then if we cross paths she goes out of her way to avoid us, even to the point of awkwardness.
I asked Diego if he noticed she was giving us the cold shoulder and he said he hadn't necessarily noticed it himself but it was obvious once i pointed it out.
We asked her husband at a Bible study if he knew if we had hurt or offended her in some way, and all he would say was that was a question for her... he wouldn't touch on it at all.
Diego was able to talk to them both after church a couple weeks later. I wasn't there since I was in conversation with someone else. She did confirm that we had hurt her deeply, but she had forgiven us. Diego apologized and asked what it was and tried to assure her we wouldn't have hurt her on purpose, and all she would say was that yes, we did it on purpose but she had forgiven us and was going to keep us at arms length from now on.
That conversation happened right before I went to NY this last time so I didn't think about it excessively while I was gone, but once I got back home I reached out to tell her I didn't miss the conversation on purpose and asked her again what we did to hurt her and she refused to tell me.
I've been pretty distressed about it and it's a bit of a tough one because I can't do anything. I can't make her tell me what we supposedly did. And shame on her if she is taking someone's word about something we supposedly did or said without talking with us. For all I know what she was potentially told wasn't accurate or was misunderstood.
It boggles my mind that she would chose to walk away from our friendship rather than talk to us.

 

[Brooks_]

So for my story.
There's a couple we know through church who have been great friends to Diego and I. They're about my parents ages, so around 60. We see them at church each week and we've both been to each other's homes for supper, so more than just casual acquaintances. The wife really loves kids in general and always showed great affection for our kids.
She started behaving strangely a while ago, like I went over with my youngest to say HI and she didn't even look at me or anything. I brushed that off initially because I thought maybe she was in a bad mood or felt sick. We don't talk to every single person at church every week so I didn't realize right away that this behavior was going to be permanent. Ever since then if we cross paths she goes out of her way to avoid us, even to the point of awkwardness.
I asked Diego if he noticed she was giving us the cold shoulder and he said he hadn't necessarily noticed it himself but it was obvious once i pointed it out.
We asked her husband at a Bible study if he knew if we had hurt or offended her in some way, and all he would say was that was a question for her... he wouldn't touch on it at all.
Diego was able to talk to them both after church a couple weeks later. I wasn't there since I was in conversation with someone else. She did confirm that we had hurt her deeply, but she had forgiven us. Diego apologized and asked what it was and tried to assure her we wouldn't have hurt her on purpose, and all she would say was that yes, we did it on purpose but she had forgiven us and was going to keep us at arms length from now on.
That conversation happened right before I went to NY this last time so I didn't think about it excessively while I was gone, but once I got back home I reached out to tell her I didn't miss the conversation on purpose and asked her again what we did to hurt her and she refused to tell me.
I've been pretty distressed about it and it's a bit of a tough one because I can't do anything. I can't make her tell me what we supposedly did. And shame on her if she is taking someone's word about something we supposedly did or said without talking with us. For all I know what she was potentially told wasn't accurate or was misunderstood.
It boggles my mind that she would chose to walk away from our friendship rather than talk to us.

I don't have the right words.

 

[Isadora]

So for my story.
There's a couple we know through church who have been great friends to Diego and I. They're about my parents ages, so around 60. We see them at church each week and we've both been to each other's homes for supper, so more than just casual acquaintances. The wife really loves kids in general and always showed great affection for our kids.
She started behaving strangely a while ago, like I went over with my youngest to say HI and she didn't even look at me or anything. I brushed that off initially because I thought maybe she was in a bad mood or felt sick. We don't talk to every single person at church every week so I didn't realize right away that this behavior was going to be permanent. Ever since then if we cross paths she goes out of her way to avoid us, even to the point of awkwardness.
I asked Diego if he noticed she was giving us the cold shoulder and he said he hadn't necessarily noticed it himself but it was obvious once i pointed it out.
We asked her husband at a Bible study if he knew if we had hurt or offended her in some way, and all he would say was that was a question for her... he wouldn't touch on it at all.
Diego was able to talk to them both after church a couple weeks later. I wasn't there since I was in conversation with someone else. She did confirm that we had hurt her deeply, but she had forgiven us. Diego apologized and asked what it was and tried to assure her we wouldn't have hurt her on purpose, and all she would say was that yes, we did it on purpose but she had forgiven us and was going to keep us at arms length from now on.
That conversation happened right before I went to NY this last time so I didn't think about it excessively while I was gone, but once I got back home I reached out to tell her I didn't miss the conversation on purpose and asked her again what we did to hurt her and she refused to tell me.
I've been pretty distressed about it and it's a bit of a tough one because I can't do anything. I can't make her tell me what we supposedly did. And shame on her if she is taking someone's word about something we supposedly did or said without talking with us. For all I know what she was potentially told wasn't accurate or was misunderstood.
It boggles my mind that she would chose to walk away from our friendship rather than talk to us.

I have wracked my brain prior to the time I noticed she was acting coldly and I cannot think of a single thing either of us did or said that could have been hurtful or offensive. I'm completely clueless.