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My mom called last night to tell me that my grandfather had passed. Actually she said "He is with grandma again"
It weird but the tears I have been crying sporadically, are tears of happiness. That they are together again. That he isnt unhappy anymore. His health began failing within a week of my aunts putting him in the nursing home. He had been living in the house he basically grew up in since he was 15 and met my grandmother.
I guess he met her when his family moved in on the next street over and he began hanging out with my grandmothers older brother Russ. He told him that he was going to marry her. Russ laughed and said that Mary was never going to marry. He waited and courted her for 10 YEARS. They married when she was 25. Which I guess was pretty old to be a newlywed back then.
But she really didnt have much of a choice other than seeing him every day. Besides being her brothers friend he also ended up moving into the house with grandma's family when his father became abusive. They were just always together and in each others lives. They lived together in my grandmothers family home til she passed away mid December 3 years ago.
Now the house is on the market and empty. That makes me sad. That there is no one in the family that wants it. I would move into it in a heartbeat but we are stuck here in our home. But it's so well taken care of. The gardens, both rose and vegetable are(were?) so beautiful. And its big. It used to be a 2 family. The neighborhood is still nice as well. Although all their neighbors have since passed and the families moved away. Yes, that the house is empty and will no longer be in the family makes me sad, and a bit angry.
I guess my aunt is in charge of all the arrangements. So all I can do is wait to find out when the memorial service is. My mom said sometime next week.
It has been such a long week here. My dh's father is back in TX after picking through some of the papers and signing things in FL from my husbands grandfathers house. They spoke last night. I guess there were several years worth of Christmas gifts in the house. When his girlfriend passed a few years ago gifts stopped since she was the one that handled all that.
Doc wasnt one to do presents and such. They are learning more about Doc now that he is gone than he ever told them when he was alive. Like more info on his military service... very cool stuff. It's just sad that we have to learn about this now, with both these men gone.
Anyway. Enough from me. Thanks again for the kind words and sympathy for both my husband and I.
It weird but the tears I have been crying sporadically, are tears of happiness. That they are together again. That he isnt unhappy anymore. His health began failing within a week of my aunts putting him in the nursing home. He had been living in the house he basically grew up in since he was 15 and met my grandmother.
I guess he met her when his family moved in on the next street over and he began hanging out with my grandmothers older brother Russ. He told him that he was going to marry her. Russ laughed and said that Mary was never going to marry. He waited and courted her for 10 YEARS. They married when she was 25. Which I guess was pretty old to be a newlywed back then.
But she really didnt have much of a choice other than seeing him every day. Besides being her brothers friend he also ended up moving into the house with grandma's family when his father became abusive. They were just always together and in each others lives. They lived together in my grandmothers family home til she passed away mid December 3 years ago.
Now the house is on the market and empty. That makes me sad. That there is no one in the family that wants it. I would move into it in a heartbeat but we are stuck here in our home. But it's so well taken care of. The gardens, both rose and vegetable are(were?) so beautiful. And its big. It used to be a 2 family. The neighborhood is still nice as well. Although all their neighbors have since passed and the families moved away. Yes, that the house is empty and will no longer be in the family makes me sad, and a bit angry.
I guess my aunt is in charge of all the arrangements. So all I can do is wait to find out when the memorial service is. My mom said sometime next week.
It has been such a long week here. My dh's father is back in TX after picking through some of the papers and signing things in FL from my husbands grandfathers house. They spoke last night. I guess there were several years worth of Christmas gifts in the house. When his girlfriend passed a few years ago gifts stopped since she was the one that handled all that.
Anyway. Enough from me. Thanks again for the kind words and sympathy for both my husband and I.
